Ignore, Condescend, Dismiss: Debate Playbook for Men Facing Women

Who is Ben Shapiro?  What qualification doe he have other than a penis?  Why is he suddenly someone a female candidate is supposed to debate, he isn’t running against her?

These MRA/incels are just too much. Arrogant nothings.

From The New York Times:  https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/nyregion/men-women-candidates-debates.html

By Ginia Bellafante
Aug. 15, 2018

Last week, Ben Shapiro, the right-wing pundit, elicited outrage on his behalf from conservatives when he asked the Democratic congressional candidate Alexandria Ocasio-Cortez to debate him and she said that she did not owe a response “to unsolicited requests from men with bad intentions.”

Mr. Shapiro had offered an hour of his time, $10,000 that Ms. Ocasio-Cortez could keep for her campaign or give to charity, and the opportunity, as he put it in a taped request, to make “America a more civil and interesting place.”

Ms. Ocasio-Cortez and her admirers doubted the sincerity of someone who on his website, The Daily Wire, once posted a video cartoon characterizing Native Americans as murderous savages until Christopher Columbus arrived to enlighten them. (He later apologized.) Mr. Shapiro and his followers saw in her refusal further proof of the left’s antipathy to engaging with ideological difference.

Ms. Ocasio-Cortez, of course, is under no obligation to debate someone who is not running for anything. She does find herself, however, in the comparatively unusual position of igniting the interests of men who want to argue with her, whatever their motives.

It has not always been this way. When a victory over Joseph Crowley, the 10-term congressman she challenged in the Democratic primary seemed so improbable, he did not rush to join her on stage and argue about housing policy. The two candidates debated twice; on two other occasions Mr. Crowley said he could not attend because of scheduling conflicts, and on one of those he sent a surrogate, Annabel Palma, a former City Councilwoman, which left the impression that the girls ought to just work things out among themselves.

Feminism’s grand resurgence this past year — striking in the results of the Democratic primary in Minnesota’s Fifth Congressional District on Tuesday in which Ilhan Omar, a young Somali immigrant, won in a six-way race that had three male candidates cumulatively receiving less than 9 percent of the vote — seems to have had little effect on heightening the sensitivities of male politicians to the optics of dismissing their female opponents. When women in politics are not facing the tediousness of having men explain things to them, they are often up against the indignities of their apathy.

Debates in particular have long wielded a special power to trigger male condescension. During the first with a female candidate to be televised nationally — the 1984 vice-presidential debate between George H.W. Bush and Geraldine Ferraro — Americans bore witness to Mr. Bush patronizing a prominent congresswoman, who served as the secretary of the House Democratic Caucus, on the subject of foreign policy. (“Let me help you with the difference, Mrs. Ferraro,” he said, “between Iran and the embassy in Lebanon.”)

Before Donald Trump stalked Hillary Clinton on stage, commandeering the frame in one of the 2016 presidential debates, Barack Obama had derided her as “likable enough,” in a primary debate eight years earlier.

Not showing up at all amounts to another expression of entitlement, and when men are the ones not showing up, the implications easily become gendered. In 2014, Zephyr Teachout, a law professor challenging Andrew M. Cuomo in the Democratic primary for governor in New York, hoped to stand next to him and talk about corruption in Albany, Wall Street influence, money in politics, education funding — but he refused, saying, at one point, that he had participated in many debates over the course of his career and that he found some to be “a disservice to democracy.” Later, in the general election, Mr. Cuomo debated his Republican opponent, Rob Astorino, and two other men running on alternate party lines.

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Why We Need to Expand Social Security Thom Hartmann w/guest Nancy Altman)

Teacher Rebellion the Strikes Context

Aretha Franklin (March 25, 1942 – August 16, 2018)

Our Gloria Steinem Problem

From The Tablet: https://www.tabletmag.com/jewish-news-and-politics/us/267498/our-gloria-steinem-problem

In the second of four excerpts from Phyllis Chesler’s ‘A Politically Incorrect Feminist,’ a little girl lost joins the party

By Phyllis Chesler
August 9, 2018

When did I first meet Gloria Steinem? That’s lost in the mists of time. I was impressed by her 1964 exposé in Show magazine of a bunny’s life at the Playboy Club. However, that excellent piece sparked no movement, nor did it free Gloria from what I perceived as the tyranny of having to maintain a perfected female appearance.

Gloria has a “little girl lost” appeal about her that gets people to want to help and take care of her. It affected me that way too. She would sometimes look up at me with a trusting, even slightly helpless look, and it worked like a charm. The effect is somewhat unnerving as well as flattering. Neither of us was a lesbian, although it was a subject we sometimes discussed. We were both told, over and over again, that lesbianism was either a more perfect form of feminism or a form of excessive man-hating.

The first time I was attracted to a woman (not that it led anywhere) I told Gloria about it immediately, as if it were some kind of breakthrough.

She sighed and asked, “Do you think it will ever happen to me?” Gloria wasn’t part of the downtown Manhattan feminist scene.

Her activism was preceded by the revolutionary speak-outs on abortion and on rape; the consciousness-raising groups; the sit-ins, marches, and demonstrations; the founding of NOW; and the enormous proliferation of feminist articles, books, and ideas. So did the publication of Betty Friedan’s The Feminine Mystique and hundreds of amazing feminist articles and books, including Simone de Beauvoir’s The Second Sex, Kate Millett’s Sexual Politics, Shulie Firestone’s The Dialectic of Sex, Germaine Greer’s The Female Eunuch, and Juliet Mitchell’s Woman’s Estate.

Gloria came to the party a bit late, but when she did she desperately wanted to be part of it.

Bella Abzug pulled Gloria into the National Women’s Political Caucus. Bella was a civil rights lawyer and an antiwar-antinuclear activist in Women Strike for Peace. She didn’t start out as a feminist, but she was a quick learner. The woman, the politician—the champion—in her saw an opening in women’s fight for equal rights. In 1970 she won a seat in the U.S. House of Representatives.

Bella was teaching Gloria everything; she took Gloria everywhere, introduced her to everyone—a canny move because Gloria drew the cameras and the laughter. Bella was a heavyweight; Gloria was her arm candy. Bella bellowed; Gloria charmed.

Bella was a colorful New York character, a little bit Damon Runyon, a little bit Mollie Goldberg, maybe even a little bit Mae West. Bella had a pretty face, Jewish lungs, and New York chutzpah. Despite her bulk, she always cut a fashionable and colorful figure in her signature hats.

Gloria began speaking publicly, usually with African-American women. Dorothy Pitman Hughes, Flo Kennedy, and Margaret Sloan-Hunter were among her speaking partners.

Gloria’s partnering with African-American women was a principled act, even if it was only a symbolic one, a way to minimize the fact the too few African-American and minority women joined CR groups, marched, and made common cause with white women—at least, at that time. In my view, psychologically, I’m guessing that perhaps Gloria felt she wasn’t as tough, savvy, or street-smart as African-American women have to be to survive. I think that she felt she needed that kind of backup.

Gloria invited me to a meeting at Brenda Feigen’s Tudor City apartment. Years later, Feigen wrote that she had been treated badly as a student at Harvard Law School in the mid-1960s, an experience that turned her into a “feminist by default.” At Harvard at that time, sports facilities and eating clubs were off-limits to women. After she graduated, law firms refused to interview her because “they were not hiring women.” Brenda went on to direct the Women’s Rights Project of the American Civil Liberties Union with Ruth Bader Ginsburg and advised NOW about abortion rights and the Equal Rights Amendment. Brenda was also a founding member of the National Women’s Political Caucus.

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Gay Mansfield art teacher won’t hide her family life from students, wife says

From The Fort Worth Star Telegram:  https://www.star-telegram.com/news/local/education/article216592335.html

By Bill Hanna And Diane Smith
August 13, 2018

On the first day of school last year, Stacy Bailey used a slide presentation to introduce herself to students.

In one slide, she introduced her wife-to-be to students with them wearing costumes of the popular Disney characters, Nemo and Dory.

To Bailey, a former teacher of the year, mentioning her fiancee at the time was nothing out of the ordinary. To some parents and administrators in the Mansfield school district, it was something else. It was promoting a gay agenda.

A year later, Bailey has filed a lawsuit against the school district and is back in the classroom. This time it’s a high school instead of an elementary school. The question is: Will she do it again?

Her wife, Julie Vasquez, has confirmed Bailey plans to use the same presentation she did a year ago at her new school, Lake Ridge High. What will be the school district’s reaction if she does?

Vasquez declined to elaborate. Bailey’s attorney, Jason Smith, said his client won’t be talking — for now.

“I really want Stacy to focus on getting back to school,” Smith said. “Right now, with where she’s at, she really doesn’t want to say anything else.”

The Star-Telegram filed an open records request to obtain a copy of the presentation, but a Texas Attorney General opinion ruled it can’t be released by the school district because it is part of a court case. However, if all parties obtain copies of the presentation through discovery, it becomes a public record.

In May, Bailey filed a federal lawsuit claiming sexual orientation discrimination. Last week, the school district filed a motion to dismiss the case. The district said she discussed her same-sex marriage with her second-grade class and that a well-known male artist, Jasper Johns, had a male “life partner.”

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A ‘Generationally Perpetuated’ Pattern: Daughters Do More Chores

This too is part of Gender, Gender, Gender.  A major reason why I don’t embrace replacing sex with gender after the trans prefix.

From The New York Times:  https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/08/upshot/chores-girls-research-social-science.html

They also earn less allowance, suggesting that the gender inequality in pay begins at home, and early in life. But there are signs the gap is narrowing.

By Claire Cain Miller
Aug. 8, 2018

It has long been true that women are paid less than men at work and do more of the labor at home. It turns out those patterns start as early as childhood.

Although there are a few signs that the gap is shrinking, a variety of data shows that girls still spend more time on household chores than boys do. They are also paid less than boys for doing chores and have smaller allowances.

One recent analysis, for example, found that boys ages 15 to 19 do about half an hour of housework a day, and girls about 45 minutes. Although girls spend a little less time on chores than they did a decade ago, the time that boys spend hasn’t significantly changed.

Shouldering more responsibilities at home is a big reason women are paid less than men and fall behind men in their careers, researchers say. Achieving equality, they argue, will require not just preparing girls for paid work, but also teaching boys to do unpaid work.

“Being involved with the household from a young age is how most children learn these skills,” said Sandra Hofferth, a sociologist at the University of Maryland who was a co-author of the recent analysis and has spent her career studying how children spend their time. “Progressives believed that they were training their boys for greater involvement in the home. However, we do not see any evidence that the gap in household work has declined.”

Her research was based on American Time Use Survey diaries from 2003 to 2014 by 6,358 high school students 15 to 19. Housework included cooking, cleaning, pet care, yard care and home and car maintenance.

It found differences based on parents’ education. Children of college-educated parents spend less time on chores over all, but the difference is almost all among girls. Daughters of college graduates spend 25 percent less time on chores than daughters of parents with no more than a high school education. But they still spend 11 minutes more a day than sons. Educated parents seem to have changed their expectations for their daughters but not for their sons, Ms. Hofferth said.

Boys are also paid more allowance than girls for doing chores, according to a recent analysis of 10,000 families that use BusyKid, a chore app. Boys using the app earned twice what girls did for doing chores — an average of $13.80 a week, compared with girls’ $6.71.

Boys are also more likely to be paid for personal hygiene, like brushing teeth or taking a shower, according to BusyKid. Girls are more likely to be paid for cleaning.

The gender gap in chores for children is worldwide. A recent study of 12-year-olds in 16 countries across the economic spectrum, not including the United States, found that in each of them, girls spent more time on household chores than boys did.

Continue reading at:  https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/08/upshot/chores-girls-research-social-science.html