Smash the Wellness Industry

From The New York Times:  https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/08/opinion/sunday/women-dieting-wellness.html

Why are so many smart women falling for its harmful, pseudoscientific claims?

By Jessica Knoll
June 8, 2019

A few months ago, I had lunch with the writer behind one of my favorite movies of the year, the agent who made the deal and the producer who packaged the project. I wanted to hear all about the process and perhaps find an opportunity to collaborate. When the server came to take our order, I flashed to that scene in “Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion” when Mira Sorvino walks into a diner in a striped skirt suit and asks the waitress, “Do you have some sort of businesswomen’s special?”

Had there been any sort of businesswomen’s special that day, our group probably couldn’t have ordered it. Someone was slogging through the Whole30 program, someone had eliminated dairy, and someone else was simply trying to be “good” after a “bad” weekend. The producer said it didn’t matter how “good” she was. She had lost the baby weight and though she may look tolerable in clothes, under the Spanx her stomach was a horror show. The writer said she had so much cellulite on her thighs she looked diseased. I gazed around the restaurant, longingly, wondering what the men eating cheeseburgers were talking about.

At one time, I too would gleefully have torn myself apart. I despised my body, and my devotion to changing it amounted to years of unpaid labor, starting with a bout of bulimia in high school. In preparation for my wedding, I worked out twice a day on 800 calories. From there I moved on to counting macros, replacing rice with cauliflower pellets, 13-day cleanses, intermittent fasting and an elimination diet that barred sugar, dairy and nightshades like potatoes.

Every new regimen ended in the same violent binge. I’d wait for my husband to go to bed so that I could obliterate the pantry without him asking, “Are you O.K.?” For the next few days, I would throw myself on the altar of “clean eating,” only to start the cycle all over again.

I called this poisonous relationship between a body I was indoctrinated to hate and food I had been taught to fear “wellness.” This was before I could recognize wellness culture for what it was — a dangerous con that seduces smart women with pseudoscientific claims of increasing energy, reducing inflammation, lowering the risk of cancer and healing skin, gut and fertility problems. But at its core, “wellness” is about weight loss. It demonizes calorically dense and delicious foods, preserving a vicious fallacy: Thin is healthy and healthy is thin.

Almost three years ago, I moved to Los Angeles from New York. After death and divorce, moving is supposed to be the most stressful thing you can go through, and eating became my salve. I had a second book and a screenplay due, a new city to explore and friends to make, but I could hardly focus on any of that for how crazy I felt around food. So I did a desperate thing. I searched “intuitive eating” online.

Thanks to a stint at a health magazine, I had a glancing understanding of the philosophy, which encourages a return to the innate wisdom we had as babies — about when to stop eating, what tastes good and how it makes our bodies feel. I might have sought it out sooner if not for the part where you learn to accept how your body looks once you stop restricting food, even if that version of your body is larger than you would like.

Continue reading at:  https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/08/opinion/sunday/women-dieting-wellness.html

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White Nationalist Threats Against Transgender People Are Escalating

From Southern Poverty Law Center:  https://www.splcenter.org/hatewatch/2019/06/26/white-nationalist-threats-against-transgender-people-are-escalating

By Cassie Miller
June 26, 2019

Transphobic rhetoric, some of it violent, appears to be increasing among white nationalists and neo-Nazis as the fight for transgender rights gains visibility and public support.

A Hatewatch review of internet chatter, social media posts and recent news events shows hate groups ramping up their efforts to demonize the transgender community, going as far as calling for the deaths of trans people.

The harassment of transgender people and their allies has been especially pronounced during Pride month, celebrated in June. For example, at Detroit’s Motor City Pride event June 8, about a dozen members of the National Socialist Movement raised a swastika flag, tore apart a rainbow flag and yelled, “fuck you faggots” and “Jews will not replace us.” And in Orlando, the New Independent Fundamental Baptist Movement held a “Make America Straight Again” conference with some speakers calling for the government to kill members of the LGBTQ community, which includes transgender people.

In June, Dallas police announced it was launching a probe into four unsolved murders of transgender women. The announcement came weeks after the fatal shooting of a transgender woman in that Texas city. The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) calls overall violence against transgender people a crisis of epidemic proportions.

“The epidemic of violence targeting transgender people, particularly Black transgender women, is an urgent crisis,” Sarah McBride, national press secretary of HRC, told Hatewatch. “The toxic mix of transphobia, misogyny and racism often has fatal consequences. The combination of those prejudices – both individually and systemically – don’t just add upon one another, they multiply one another.”

Online channels make it easy for the purveyors of hate to spread their message.

White nationalist and former U.S. Congressional candidate Paul Nehlen announced on June 19 a plan he called “PROJECT DOX TRANNY STORYTIME.” He urged his nearly 400 followers: “Get photos of all the degenerate parents who take their kids to this filth. Get their license plates, anything else you can.”

Nehlen uses the messaging app Telegram, a platform favored by white nationalists and terrorists.

Nehlen’s target is a nationwide program called Drag Queen Story Hour, where drag queens read to kids at local libraries and bookstores. The programs, in addition to children’s classics, feature books that cover such topics as gender expression and family diversity.

Events like the story hour have become a big draw for far-right extremists who are increasingly intent upon invoking violent, or harassing, solutions for what they deem “degeneracy.” At the “Make America Straight” conference, speakers made their definition of “degeneracy” clear when they demonized LGBTQ people as “sodomites” and smeared them as pedophiles who will stop at nothing to attack children.

Transphobia has long been an animating force within the white nationalist movement, but the tenor of that hatred has changed due to two converging factors. White power activists are increasingly embracing violent language and actions as political tools at the same time the transgender rights movement is more active than ever.

For example, a recent survey shows that more than six in 10 Americans have become more supportive of transgender rights. Furthermore, seven out of 10 Americans believe transgender people should be able to serve in the U.S. military.

Nehlen regularly praises people like Robert Bowers. Bowers faces 63 criminal counts in connection with a shooting at the Tree of Life synagogue in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. As a frequent guest on white nationalist podcasts, Nehlen encourages like-minded men to commit violent acts. “They stepped up to do something and we ought to celebrate them,” he said of Bowers and mass killers Dylann Roof and Anders Breivik on an April episode of “The Gas Station” podcast.

At a June 15 Drag Queen Story Hour in Spokane, Washington, some 400 people stood in support of the event while another 200 came to protest. There was a large law enforcement presence, including officers with sniper rifles stationed on a rooftop.

Nehlen responded: “You motherfuckers remember it was YOU who escalated this TRANNY shit with SNIPERS. My guess is, when all is said and DONE, there will be a minimum of 100 FEWER state-payrolled uniformed employees for every TRANNY protesting mom shot by your snipers.”

“Shoot wisely, ZOG pigs,” he wrote on Telegram, calling for violence with an antisemitic slur.

For far-right extremists, the increased visibility of transgender people is a sign of the growing “degeneracy” of the nation, wrought by “cultural Marxists,” leftists and Jews as part of an assault on white, Christian families and strict gender roles. They believe that trans people, like immigrants and non-whites, are hastening the destruction of an idealized white, Western culture.

Nehlen is not alone in advocating doxing of Drag Queen Story attendees. An anonymous administrator created a Telegram channel for that purpose with posts that drew more than 1,000 views in less than a week.

“Here’s a list of locations these degenerates will be if you’re interested,” the administrator wrote. They encouraged people to contact the employers of parents who brought their kids to the drag queen events, post their names in local Facebook groups and publicly post their information “anywhere you can think of shaming these folks.”

“Those who promote Drag Kids deserve absolute fucking death,” another user wrote in a post viewed more than 700 times in the three days since it posted. “Anyone online who has ever said a word of support of this deserves to be hung drawn and quartered.”

Drag Queen Story Hours have drawn the attention of such groups as the white nationalist American Identity Movement (AIM, formerly known as Identity Evropa). In April, two of its members disrupted a story hour event in New Orleans dressed as clowns (in part, a reference to the “Honkler” clown character adopted by white nationalists). They held a banner reading “Adult entertainment for kids! | Welcome to clown world | Honk Honk” as they stood in the library in front of confused library patrons.

It’s not just white nationalists who have become more vocally transphobic.

Many on the far right argue that the transgender rights movement is a sign of out-of-control political correctness, not as a fight for equality. It’s an opinion shared with members of the so-called Intellectual Dark Web, a collective of academics and commentators joined in their opposition to progressive politics.

That includes Canadian professor Jordan Peterson. Popular among the racist “alt-right,” Peterson first gained media attention in 2016 when he refused to refer to some University of Toronto students and faculty by their preferred gender pronouns.

“I’ve studied authoritarianism for a very long time – for 40 years – and they’re started by people’s attempts to control the ideological and linguistic territory,” Peterson told the BBC in 2016. “There’s no way I’m going to use words made up by people who are doing that – not a chance.”

Members of the far right and overt white nationalists have both cheered on the Trump administration’s rollback of transgender rights. The administration has effectively banned transgender people from serving in the military, introduced a policy that would allow homeless shelters to turn people away based on their gender identity and reversed an Obama-era rule protecting transgender people from discrimination when seeking health care.

“We are protecting the social order. We are protecting the nation,” Daily Stormer editor Andrew Anglin wrote on the site late last year in a supportive response to President Trump’s policies related to transgender people. “Somebody has to stop these sick faggots.”

Violence against transgender people is also on the rise. The problem is so acute the American Medical Association recently called the violence against transgender people an “epidemic.”

According to the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), at least 10 trans women have been killed in the United States this year and, in 2018, 26 transgender people were murdered. The majority of the victims were black transgender women.

Extremists are openly calling for violence against transgender people.

“Assisted suicide is the only help you can give trannies,” neo-Nazi and “Unite the Right” veteran Christopher Cantwell wrote on Telegram earlier this month.

On the neo-Nazi site the Daily Stormer, the pseudonymous contributor Roy Batty said June 20 that transgender people should be forced “to wear some kind of symbol on their clothing so that people can tell them apart.”

“So many potential murder cases could be avoided if these trannies could just be reasonable and wear the black triangle,” he wrote, in effect blaming transgender women for their own murders if they had garnered the sexual interest of transphobic men.

In another post on his site from late last year, Anglin actively encouraged transgender people to commit suicide:

Listen up trannies – there is only one good thing you can do with your lives, and that’s end them as quickly as possible…. So as long as you exist, you’ll not only be miserable yourselves, but you’ll make everybody around you miserable and generally degrade society even further than it already is, all at the behest of (((people))) who I can assure you hate you as much as I do. Suicide is the only logical thing to do, and the only way you’ll ever get peace. DO IT!!!

The post ended with a gif of an anime character hanging themself.

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Chest Binding Helps Smooth the Way for Transgender Teens, but There May Be Risks

From The New York Times:  https://www.nytimes.com/2019/05/31/well/transgender-teens-binders.html

People who use binders report symptoms like back and chest pain, overheating and shortness of breath.

By Amy Sohn
May 31, 2019

It used to be that when a 13-year-old wanted a binder for school, it meant a trip to Staples. For today’s tweens and teens who identify as gender-nonconforming or transgender, shopping for a binder may mean a compression undergarment worn to flatten breasts.

Made of thick spandex and nylon, binders resemble tight undershirts, creating a masculine profile. The American Academy of Pediatrics has estimated that 0.7 percent of 13- to 17-year-olds in the United States, about 150,000, identify as transgender. Dr. John Steever, assistant professor of pediatrics at Mount Sinai Adolescent Health Center in Manhattan, who runs its transgender health program and has evaluated over 500 patients from ages 8 to 23, said that almost 95 percent of the transmasculine teenagers in the program bind.

Binders are not classified as medical devices, but some doctors and parents have concerns about their safety. (Common-sense binding guidelines include: Don’t use Ace bandages or duct tape, don’t bind at night, limit a binder to eight to 10 hours a day, don’t shower in it, don’t wear two, and don’t wear one that is too small.)

Though breast compression has been around hundreds of years — think of corsets — commercial binders, primarily sold online, have been available for about 15 years. Marli Washington, 26, a transgender man and founder of GC2B Transitional Apparel, an online binder company, wrote in an email that the company had had “at least a 200 percent growth” since 2015.

Some transgender teens say they buy binders so that they can “pass” as male or to diminish feelings of discomfort with the body known as body dysphoria. And though wearing binders is temporary, their use can be associated with later medical transition. Dr. Steever said most of his patients who use binders “then tell me the next things they want to do, like testosterone, mastectomy and maybe phalloplasty. Ninety-five percent of the people I’ve evaluated get started on cross-hormones.” (Cross-gender hormone treatment in young people may affect future fertility, but data is limited.)

For transgender or gender-nonconforming teens who cannot afford binders, which start at around $30, there are free binder programs. FTM Essentials runs an application and lottery for those age 24 and under. Point of Pride, a transgender nonprofit based in Eugene, Ore., ships binders free to people of any age who express need and has sent over 4,000 nationally and internationally.

Often, teenagers first learn about binders through YouTube videos hosted by young people. An instructional video called “Chest binding” by a Norwegian teenager named Kovu Kingsrod, who wears as many as three sports bras a day, has more than a million views.

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‘It’s Binding or Suicide’: Transgender and Non-Binary Readers Share Their Experiences With Chest Binders

By Lara Takenaga
June 17, 2019

A recent Times article on chest binding prompted a discussion among readers about the practice, which some transgender and gender-nonconforming people use to compress their breasts and treat body dysphoria, as well as how we covered it.

We wanted to hear more from people who have used chest binders, so we asked readers to tell us why they’ve worn them and what effect binding has had on their lives. We received more than 200 responses, mostly from teenagers and young adults.

Below is a selection of the responses, which have been edited and condensed.

If you have used chest binders, please tell us about your experience in the comments.

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Revealed: the trans military members living in fear under Trump’s ban

A rich overly privileged chicken shit draft dodging douche bag shows his contempt for patriotic American Trans-Folks who volunteered serve their nation and in some cases put their bodies on the line and give their lives to serve.  That is really spitting on the troops.

From The Guardian UK:  https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/jun/12/revealed-how-trumps-transgender-ban-has-forced-military-members-back-into-hiding

Guardian investigation finds increased hostility towards trans people who could lose everything if they are outed

by in New York
Thu 13 Jun 2019

Donald Trump’s ban on transgender people serving in the US military has spread a pall of fear over the 15,000 personnel it touches and emboldened hostility towards even those on the frontline of active duty, an investigation by the Guardian has found.

The ban kicked in on 12 April and, two months into its imposition, the full chilling effects are only now becoming apparent. Under its terms, trans people seeking to enlist in the military are subject to an almost total exclusion unless they keep their gender identity hidden.

Most individuals who are already serving are similarly forced to keep their true selves tightly closeted. There are exceptions, but they are narrowly defined and hard to procure.

Last week, Trump tried to justify the ban by complaining about the high costs associated with treating military personnel for gender dysphoria, the formal diagnosis when an individual’s gender is different from the one assigned to them at birth. In fact the entire medical budget for gender transition-related care is a tenth what the armed forces spend annually on Viagra and Cialis.

The US president has also blamed trans individuals for causing “tremendous disruption” within the armed forces. That conflicts with the experience of 19 countries including Australia, Canada, Germany and the UK that have allowed trans people to serve without incident.

In the US, all four military service chiefs have testified before Congress that there were no known negative effects during the three years in which President Obama opened the doors to trans people.

“The biggest impact of the ban is that we are denying ourselves future heroes. Our nation needs the best and finest to fight and win future wars and we are turning away people just because they are trans,” said Lt Col B Fram, communications director of SPART*A, an education and advocacy group representing trans service members.

The Guardian partnered with SPART*A to investigate how Trump’s ban is bearing down on trans women and men in active duty settings. Here we profile four people in the navy and air force.

All are in aircrew and at the sharp end of the US fighting machine. They are familiar with the intense sacrifices to family and self that a military career involves, and have put their lives on the line in conflict zones.

Yet they are now having to cope with severe pressures brought about by the ban. That includes mounting hostility from transphobic peers who see Trump’s move as license to taunt and ridicule, as well as the daily fear that if they are outed as trans they could lose everything.

The stakes are now so high that all four spoke to the Guardian insisting on absolute anonymity. As one of them put it: “If I were found out by even one person, that would be the end of my flying career.”

Emily Finnerty, US navy, F-18 fighter pilot, trans woman

When you meet Emily Finnerty in person, as the Guardian did recently, she comes across as more Tom Cruise than Tom Cruise. She has the same piercing gaze and verbal intensity of the Top Gun star, especially when describing the sensation of piloting an F-18 Super Hornet, the fighter jet that Cruise will fly in the sequel to the classic movie scheduled for release next year.

If Cruise’s role in Top Gun is Hollywood’s attempt to personify American military might and patriotic service, then Finnerty is the real deal. She knows what it’s like to fly at Mach speeds in that state-of-the-art $90m fighting machine. She has felt the punch in the gut when the aircraft explodes from the deck of a US navy carrier and endured the bone-crushing sustained 7.5gs of the dogfights that followed.

She is familiar with the terror and exhilaration of going zero to 160mph in two seconds. She can recall the glory of flying low through the canyons of Utah or the beauty of hugging the mountains of California. And she’s been there when training gets serious, notching up 60 combat missions in the all-too-real war zones of Iraq and Afghanistan.

Through all that, there has been the sacrifice that being on the frontlines of the US military extracts from her family and from herself. “My children didn’t know me, I was away so much. My back’s destroyed from the G-force. I’ve had near-death experiences from aircraft failure and I’ve seen friends die. But I’ve never betrayed the trust of my country and I’ve always answered the call.”

The US military has spent more than $11m in turning Finnerty from a young navy recruit over a decade ago into a lieutenant commander today. But now it is in danger of squandering every cent of that investment, by effectively valuing her as worthless.

Since the age of 10, Finnerty has secretly struggled with dysphoria. Though assigned male at birth, and presenting in public and within the navy as male, she has strong urges to transition and live authentically as a woman.
She came out to her wife and parents only a few weeks ago and is working through the trauma of that shattering revelation with her supportive family. If it is hard at home, it is far more difficult at work. Under the terms of Trump’s ban she will only be able to stay in the navy if she continues to wrap herself in a lie. She must put aside any desire to live as her authentic self and forego any medical treatment in order to present as a man and be allowed to continue to serve.

Continue reading at:  https://www.theguardian.com/society/2019/jun/12/revealed-how-trumps-transgender-ban-has-forced-military-members-back-into-hiding

But…but….Israeli “pinkwashing”!

Iranian FM Mohammed Javad Sarif Justifies Execution of Gay People

From Israelly Cool: https://www.israellycool.com/2019/06/13/iranian-fm-mohammed-javad-sarif-justifies-execution-of-gay-people/

By Aussie Dave
June 13, 2019

The US on Wednesday accused Iran of violating fundamental human rights after Iranian Foreign Minister Mohammed Javad Sarif endorsed the execution of gay people.

Sarif defended his country’s draconian policies at a joint press conference with German Foreign Minister Heiko Maas in Tehran on Monday.

A reporter from German tabloid Bild asked: “Why are homosexuals executed in Iran because of their sexual orientation?”

He responded: “Our society has moral principles. And we live according to these principles. These are moral principles concerning the behavior of people in general. And that means that the law is respected and the law is obeyed,” after railing against human rights violations by the US and Israel.

But the real story here is the silence of most of the mainstream media, the likes of Human Rights Watch, and those who accuse Israel of “pinkwashing” because we have the audacity to treat LGBTQ well here (unlike how they treated in every other country in the Middle East).

Plus I am willing to bet if someone turned up to the DC Dyke March draped in an Iranian flag, they would not be accosted with numerous demands to remove it.

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#Pride50: Alivia Stehlik — Transgender Army captain

From NBC News:  https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/pride50-alivia-stehlik-transgender-army-captain-n1008006

By Julie Compton
June 3, 2019

Army Capt. Alivia Stehlik is a graduate of West Point and Army Ranger School, a former infantry platoon leader, a physical therapist and a veteran of the Afghan war. She’s also a proud transgender woman.

When Stehlik, 32, testified before the House Armed Services Subcommittee on Military Personnel during a hearing on Capitol Hill in Washington in February, she wanted the committee to know one thing: Living openly as a transgender woman has not affected her ability to defend her country.

“Has my transition made soldiers uncomfortable? Absolutely not,” Stehlik told the subcommittee, which at the time was considering a ban on transgender troops that officially took effect in April.

Stehlik, an Army physical therapist stationed in Fort Carson in Colorado Springs, reiterated that sentiment during an interview with NBC News.

“I went to these remote outposts with the most alpha male types that our Army has, and they were thrilled to have me and invited me back, and the fact that I was trans, they didn’t care,” she said. “They just wanted me to be competent, and I was.”

When, in 2016, the military lifted its original ban on transgender troops, Stehlik was thrilled. She transitioned in May 2017, and has lived openly as a woman ever since.

But her enthusiasm would be short lived. In April, the Pentagon implemented the Trump administration’s new policy to ban transgender troops from serving openly in the military.

While the Defense Department has said the policy is not a ban, the policy states that transgender troops cannot enlist or serve if they live openly in their preferred gender, and are disqualified if they have received a diagnosis of gender dysphoria — the mismatch a trans person may feel between their gender identity and biological sex.

But soldiers like Stehlik, who transitioned before the policy took effect, are exempt from those rules.

“Why am I different?” Stehlik asked. “To me, it’s just clearly discriminatory.”

Stehlik spent a year as an infantry platoon leader in South Korea in 2009. She graduated from the Army’s physical therapy school in 2016, and deployed to Afghanistan from May 2018 to January 2019, where she provided physical therapy to combat soldiers.

She’s optimistic that the ban on trans military personnel will be lifted.

“I have zero doubt that one day this question will be settled and trans people will be a full and welcome part of the military community and of the world,” Stehlik said.

Continue reading at:  https://www.nbcnews.com/feature/nbc-out/pride50-alivia-stehlik-transgender-army-captain-n1008006

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Fifty Years Ago

I started hormones in March of 1969.  I was already androgynous enough to be asked if I were a boy or a girl and after three months most new people I met assumed I was a girl.  Plus it was getting hard to hide my emerging  itchy boobs.

The People’s Park Riots in May had delayed my going full time. As May turned to June I stopped pretending and just started letting it happen.  Once I decided to be myself, presenting as a boy felt odd and after a few days I was just a hippie chick.  One night the people in the commune decided it was wrong to use my dead name.  They really made an effort and after a few days it became natural.

People saw how happy I was.

A week or so later Stonewall happened and a couple of weeks later I read about it in the Under Ground Press.

But mostly that summer was about being a Berkeley hippie chick.

Deserter friends split for Canada along with a boy named Morey, who I was seriously in love with.

We landed on the Moon.

I missed Woodstock but saw a bunch of other bands including the Rolling Stones in Oakland.  Skipped Altamont because I had a job and it didn’t sound like it would be much fun.

I was a hippie, not part of any trans-community, that would come later.

We have lost the words we used to describe our lives. “Hippie Chick.” The language police would mark that one out just as they would transsexual.

And the seasons they go round and round
And the painted ponies go up and down
We’re captive on the carousel of time
We can’t return we can only look behind
From where we came
And go round and round and round
In the circle game

Joni Mitchell

The 1960s became the 1970s. Town House Explosions and Kent State. I took up with Jerry, a Marine fresh back from Vietnam and too restless angry to bother waiting for an official discharge. I was doing sex work and we were a couple straight out of the Jane Fonda/Donald Sutherland movie “Steelyard Blues.”  We were crazy brave and crazy happy.  When Jerry got busted I got him out.

I went to work with the National Transsexual Counseling Unit in SF, co-running it with Jan Maxwell.

Then in June of 1972 around the solstice I had my sex change operation.

The following year I discovered LA and Jerry and I discovered open relationships didn’t work all that well.

In 1974 I went to my first Pride Day, picked from the crowd to speak because of my work with the NTCU my connection to the LGBT world was already becoming more and more about the L-word and less and less about the T-word.  I was held by more of a sense of obligation, a need to see others pick up the work.

And the words of “The Circle Game” keep playing.  Life is like a river not a quiet lake.

By the time of the internet, long before Facebook, when Usenet and mailing lists were the hottest thing around, I realized language had changed. My experiences and memories remain mine but now I am expected to remember certain events differently and use different words to describe my life.

Somewhere during that half century I stopped feeling trans, stopped seeing others as trans.  We became just people a different kind of ordinary not defined by trans-prefixed words.

Now with marriage equality and a nearly 2 decade relationship, hair that has turned gray, I or perhaps I should say we, have joined a much broader community of Elders.  I like the word Elder better than senior citizen.

 

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The Stonewall You Know Is a Myth. And That’s O.K. | NYT Celebrating Pride

In the summer of 1967 I first had sex with a man who picked  me near the subway stop at Sheridan Square.  The Stonewall didn’t exist yet but the area was known to be a gay cruising spot.

The area wasn’t the carnival of Bleeker and McDougal Streets, nor the East Village riot of St Mark’s Place.  It was mostly residential.  not far from where the Village Voice had their offices.

I hung out in the Village quite a bit during 1967, testing my wings in preparation for leaving home and coming out.

There were already gay and lesbian movements in NYC, SF and LA.  I met someone, a sister in the early stages of transition.  She told me SF was the place to be because there were trans-organizations there and doctors who would give hormone scripts.

In April of 1967 there had been the pageant in NYC that was documented in The Queen, which I posted recently.  Dr Benjamin’s book was out and available.

Fast Forward To 1969:

I was living in Berkeley and started transition, first coming out to friends.  Welfare Department Social workers were able to find people who were in turn able to refer me to a place out on Van Ness Ave called the Center for Special Problems.  They interviewed me, thought I was cute and gave me a bunch of hormones.  That was in March.

At the same time gay rights organizations had picket lines up in front of several businesses.

I took part in the People’s Park Riots in May.  I was so androgynous at that point people were struggling to figure out pronouns.  By early June I was sliding into full time and by mid-month I had stopped sliding in that direction and was full time.

Then at the end of June Stonewall happened.  We didn’t have the internet and it wasn’t reported in the mainstream but we had the underground press.  In the weeks that followed I read every article I could get my hands on in both the gay and straight underground press.

By the time Stonewall 30 rolled around it was hard to recognize the Stonewall I had read about in the summer of 1969 in the stories floated as facts.

It wasn’t about trans-folks. We have our own history.  It wasn’t particularly about people of color.  It wasn’t the Birth of the Gay Liberation Movement.

If anything it marked the end of the closet and the start of outness.  With the start of outness came a 50 year march toward being just a different kind of normal.

The first years of Pride Day were political.  Now they are more a party, a celebration of simply being ourselves.

And maybe that is really what Stonewall’s importance is.  A punctuation point, the start of a new chapter or a volume 2 of a series of books.

Who knows maybe a celebration is more appropriate than those who want Pride Day to be political.

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