Nov. 11-17 is Transgender Awareness Week, during which many organizations and community groups work together to raise awareness about important issues facing transgender people. On Tuesday the Young Leaders Council of Fenway Health hosted an interactive and thoughtful discussion about what it means to be an ally for the transgender community.
We heard from two panelists: Donnie Collins, a college student whose fraternity brothers banded together to raise over $20,000 when Donnie’s insurance refused to cover his medical expenses, and Grace Stevens, who works with businesses to develop respectful, inclusive policies and a culture of acceptance.
I consider myself a strong ally for the LGBTQ community (I work at Fenway Health, after all), but this event really broadened my understanding and taught me a lot. When asked how the world could be a better place for trans people, Grace responded, “If they could not fear losing everything when they transition.” Wow. Donnie commented on how children are taught from a young age what is “appropriate” for their biological sex and cautioned, “We don’t want kids to feel unsafe expressing themselves.” We need to stop saying things like, “This is just a phase,” and just let them be.
John Lewis, one of Donnie’s fraternity brothers who helped lead the fundraising efforts and supported Donnie all along, made several insightful comments about being an ally. He didn’t know many trans people before Donnie, but he said that after they became friends, “his fight became my own.” He talked about having lots of questions and being nervous to ask them, but then being grateful when Donnie took the time to answer. Perhaps most importantly, John reminded us all that it’s a continuous learning process for everyone involved.
So what are my takeaways? Here are some of the most basic things we can do to better support our transgender friends: