National Coming Out Day, My Story and the Story of Others Too

Coming out is different from the idea of telling everyone you meet about how you are LGBT etc.

Coming out is sort of different for transsexual and transgender people than it is for gay and lesbian people.

But as I have said about narratives all coming out stories are the same and only the details are different.

Coming out is about first and foremost coming out to yourself.

You come out the moment you say to yourself, “This is who I am, I accept myself for being who I am.”

Many LGBT/T people come out to themselves years before they ever come out to another person.  Once we become self-aware we struggle with guilt and shame.  We are forced to deal with superstitious believers in imaginary beings condemning our very being.

Coming to self acceptance is the hero’s journey that Joseph Campbell writes about. Coming out is something different for those of us who were obvious transkids than it is for someone who served in the military and was in a heterosexual marriage where they became a parent.

Was I coming out when I was a toddler begging for dolls and other ‘girl’s toys’?

Was getting busted at thirteen for dressing in my mother’s clothes an act of coming out?

At fifteen my parents found my collection of clippings telling the story of April Ashley.  The demanded to know if I wanted to be ‘like that’.  I answered, “This is what I am, isn’t it?”

Perhaps the ultimate act of coming out happened on the cusp of 1969.  1968 had been a rough year and I knew I had to take the risk or else I would explode.

I trusted my friend Morey and the other guys in my commune to be there for me.

He told me that any friend who would withdraw friendship because I was open about myself wasn’t really my friend.

Then he was blown away because I told him I was transsexual.

You see he had been prepared for me to say the word, gay, all my friends had been prepared for that.

But he hardly missed a beat and caught up a few bars on, saying, “That sort of makes sense.”

When I told people they said things like, “We were tripping when we first met you and thought you were Morey’s girlfriend.”

So perhaps that was when I first “Came Out!”

Or maybe going to the Center for Special Problems and telling the doctors there that I wanted to change sex and would like to take hormones.

We all have different stories.  We all have the same stories.

Maybe “Coming Out” has been turned into this Kodak Moment instead of a lot of little acts that put us on the path to self.

I saw a bunch of comments on one Facebook page today about stealth.

Stealth just sort of happens like being post-transsexual just sort of happens.

You know you are post-transsexual when someone in early transition ask you for a surgery recommendation and you realize the best you can give them is Andrea James’s TS Road Map.

Stealth just happens too, like when you go to a Day of Remembrance and the people in transition thank you saying how nice it is to have the support of lesbians or cis-folks.

Coming out is important as a way of proclaiming self.

It marks a major turning point in life and seems so important to those first doing it.

After many years it becomes like Pride Day events.  Something you have done so many times it no longer seems like something you need to do again.

Something that it is nonetheless important for each new generation to continue to do.

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Rachel Maddow Talks Debates and Marriage Equality

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World Health Organization: Trans people aren’t sick!

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World Health Organization: Trans people aren’t sick!

by Jenna Talackova
Vancouver, Canada

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I’m not sick. In fact I’m great! I’m a women that had to undergo transgender medical procedures to become who I really am on in the inside.

But the World Health Organization (WHO) insists that I, and millions of other trans people are sick. The WHO actually considers transsexualism to be a mental disorder.

Since facing and overcoming discrimination for being a transgender woman back in March – when I was kicked out of and then re-admitted to the Miss Universe Pageant – I’ve been working to fight the stigma and discrimination facing trans people like me.

Join me in signing this petition and ask the World Health Organization to stop considering transsexual people mentally ill.

The WHO is definitely willing to reconsider their choices. Homosexuality was actually included on the same World Health Organization list until 1990 when it was removed after the gay community made a lot of noise. This also doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be included in the health system and provided with treatments, however, this has nothing to do with us being classified as mentally ill.


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As demand for illegal silicone injections grows, so do deaths

From The LA Times:,0,5337044,full.story

People seeking bigger buttocks often end up at illegal ‘pumping parties’ with unsanitary – and sometimes fatal – injections of industrial-grade silicone.

By Laura J. Nelson, Los Angeles Times
October 9, 2012

Shatarka Nuby just wanted to be pretty.

She longed to fill out her jeans, to look curvier in her bikini, so she sought out a man with a syringe who said he could sell her the body she wanted for $1,000.

In her bedroom in South Florida, witnesses later told police, Nuby handed Oneal Ron Morris a wad of cash and stretched out on her stomach. Morris plunged a syringe filled with clear liquid into Nuby’s hips and buttocks, the onlookers said. Her skin began to rise under the needle.

Nuby underwent treatments for four years and, in time, fell ill. She died in March at age 31.

Morris, 31, now awaits trial on charges of manslaughter. Police say that, using the alias “Duchess,” he gave injections to multiple women in South Florida — pumping their buttocks and other body parts with silicone, mineral oil or Fix-A-Flat tire sealant and sealing the wounds with Super Glue.

Nuby is one of hundreds of people who have turned to a black market version of cosmetic surgery, sometimes with lethal consequences. Her official cause of death: respiratory failure triggered by a massive migration of industrial-grade silicone.

Some see the injections as a quick fix to a body image problem. Others are strippers or sex workers who seek more feminine bodies, or transgender women who can’t afford hormone therapy.

“Too often, these are acts of desperation,” said Harper Tobin, policy director at the National Center for Transgender Equality.

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Voices of Choice — Dr. Mildred Hanson on Pre-Roe Abortions

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Julia Gillard, Australia Prime Minister, Launches Blistering Attack On Sexism During Parliament Speech

From Huffington Post:


Australia’s female Prime Minister Julia Gillard gave an “epic speech on sexism” on Tuesday, when she traded heated blows in Parliament with opposition leader Tony Abbott.

In what has been dubbed a “masterful, righteous take-down,” Gillard’s fiery speech lambasted Abbott in front of the House of Representatives and called him a “sexist” and “misogynist.”

The Australian Broadcasting Corporation uploaded a video capturing Gillard’s scathing speech to YouTube on Tuesday.

“I will not be lectured about sexism and misogyny by this man; I will not,” Gillard begins, gesturing toward Abbott. She continues:

And the government will not be lectured about sexism and misogyny by this man. Not now, not ever. The leader of the opposition says that people who hold sexist views and who are misogynists are not appropriate for high office. Well, I hope the leader of the opposition has got a piece of paper and he is writing out his resignation. Because if he wants to know what misogyny looks like in modern Australia, he doesn’t need a motion in the house of representatives, he needs a mirror.

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GOP seeks world’s strictest abortion law

From SF Gate:

Joel Brinkley
 Friday, October 5, 2012

Costa Rican women are appealing to the Inter-American Court of Human Rights to overturn a national law banning in-vitro fertilization.

The state’s national ombudsman, Ofelia Taitelbaum, started the process, saying “people will understand that this is about rights” that are appropriate for “our times.”

In the worldwide debate over abortion and women’s rights, this might seem like an unusual law. After all, in-vitro fertilization actually creates life. But Costa Rica is heavily Catholic; more than 76 percent of its people identify themselves as Roman Catholic, and the Vatican openly opposes in-vitro fertilization, widely known as IVF.

When British scientist Robert Edwards won the 2010 Nobel Prize for his development of in-vitro fertilization therapy, Monsignor Ignacio Carrasco, the Vatican’s spokesman for bioethics, declared that because of IVF, “a large number of freezers” in the world are “filled with embryos. In the best of cases they are transferred into a uterus, but most probably will end up abandoned or dead.”

The odd thing is that Costa Rica is one of Latin America’s most progressive nations, a true, longtime democracy that has one of the region’s more liberal abortion policies. The state allows abortion in cases that are important to the woman’s physical or mental health.

Last year, the United Nations published a study of abortion and related policies worldwide and found that the most restrictive laws are in Latin America. But in truth, the study’s findings show that the United States would be home to the world’s most restrictive abortion policy – if the Republican Party has its way.

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