Sometimes I just Fucking Hate NormBorns aka Cis-Sexual/Cis-Gender People

I’m not all that fond of the words “cis-gender” and “cis-sexual”.

They lack the sarcastic, ironic edge to voice the anger I feel towards the privileged normborns.

A friend, Sophie Seidlberg, coined the term “normborn” and I prefer that because it has the same feel as the contemptuous word I used for straights back in the 1970s.

Back then, when the Christo-Fascists and right wing was coming into power I used to call straight people, “Breeders”

That term lost its edge years ago when LGBT/T people started having little LGBT/T kids.

Being or having been transsexual or being transgender means having to deal with a massive amount of bullshit normborns never have to deal with.

People wonder why most of us who can pass do so.  It is because passing allows us a modicum of ordinary life.

Like most privileged people normborns are totally unaware of their enormous amount of privilege.

This is particularly true of radical feminist academics.  Especially those that went to elite universities.

They prattle on about transsexual/transgender male privilege, while blissfully oblivious to the abuse visible transkids endure from the cradle.

Transkids are aliens born into families whose treatment of them ranges from supportive to murderously abusive.

When I meet a sister, who managed to get an education and establish a career, I’m proud of her.  I didn’t.  I had my education destroyed by endless bullying.  The education I’ve gained in the years since has been hard won.

I had friends who were driven from high school, with perhaps a GED.

I’ve seen so many of my sisters driven into sex work because that is the niche normborns have decided to allow those sisters they deprived of an education.

Repeat after me:   “Normborn sex workers are victims of trafficking and abuse, while trans-sex workers are doing it to degrade women and because they get their kicks that way.”

Gaia, I hate normborn presumptuousness and and snotty sense of privileged superiority.

I hate your fucking piss-assed platitudes about how if we didn’t have some imaginary gender binary then there wouldn’t be transsexual,s who would feel the need to have sex change operations, and people wouldn’t be transgender.

You are ignorant pigs who don’t have a fucking clue what it is like to grow up feeling an alien within your own skin.

I just love the radical feminists who want to enslave me as part of an army of transsexual/transgender warriors in their campaign to dismantle gender.

Fuck you I was born with a gift that allowed me to avoid being enslaved to murder people in southeast Asia.

You don’t fucking get to decide what battles I fight.

I am a full human being, with all the agency normborns presume to have exclusive ownership of.

I’m sick and fucking tired of your lies about us.  Your twisting everything we say or do.

You are like anti-Semites quoting from the Protocols of the Elders of Zion, only with  a different book of blood libels,  “The Transsexual Empire.”

Yeah sometimes when I read about some normborn prick getting away with cold bloodedly murdering one of my sisters  I am so beside myself with rage I nearly explode.

Or when I read of a sister defending herself from a swastika tattooed thug and his gang which was attacking her going to prison instead of the other members of the thugs gang being the ones charged I want to explode in rage.

The one thing in life that keeps me from exploding with rage at normborns is the knowledge that the vast majority of non-trans folks are good decent people who don’t want to hurt us, and while they may not understand us don’t bear us a great deal of animosity.

Usually the obvious bigots fall into the same camp as the religious-fascists, the ultra right wing and the so called radical feminists.

Wow I feel so much better now that I blurted that out.

5 Responses to “Sometimes I just Fucking Hate NormBorns aka Cis-Sexual/Cis-Gender People”

  1. Anonymous Says:

    I am a cisgender bisexual male, I’m very much aware of the privilege I have… But just because I have it doesn’t make me a worse person.

    I will never truly understand how a transsexual feels throughout their life, but I goddamn try. I don’t discriminate a cent, and that’s because they deserve just as much respect as anyone else.

    Why am I saying this? Because you are a misguided individual. You assume that because some poor souls agave attacked you throughout life, that any cisgender is an ignorant asshole.

    Now, I want to make this clear – I don’t respect you at all right now. Not because you are transsexual, but how you are flouting it.

    You should know based on your own experiences that the world isn’t as black and white as you see it to be. You should be ashamed.

    • Suzan Says:

      Well Anonymous, What part of the term “Sometimes” is the part that is so difficult for you to comprehend?

      My privileged normborns are touchy. Instead of possibly agreeing with me that having been bullied from infancy and having my schooling destroyed might color my feelings towards the group that did it you choose to attack me.

      You even have a reason for attacking me because I am “flouting” it, which by the way isn’t the word you were looking for. That word is “flaunting” a transitive verb meaning “To exhibit ostentatiously or shamelessly” Flouting for your enlightenment means to treat with contemptuous disregard and is an intransitive verb.

      Why do you assume I want you to like me? Or that I care about hurting your feelings I mean you have obviously chosen to identify with those cisgenders who have made my life miserable. You just don’t think I should be pissed off at the injury done me.

      Which expecting a fuck of a lot considering. Particularly from an atheist who isn’t a pacifist.

      I’m one of those people who hits back and remembers.

  2. Owen Says:

    You know, I’m with the guy up there. I’m bisexual, and I guess I am “cisgender” if I was born a male and identify as such, am I understanding the terminology right? Look, I get, and I am pretty sure he gets, that you were treated horribly. That sucks, and the people that treated you as such deserve some kind of retribution. I was treated shitty by straight men and women when I finally came out as being bisexual, and I was also treated poorly by some from the transgender community for it as well hearing such things as “pick a side” of being called a “faggot”, etc.

    This did not help my self esteem at all and it fueled rage towards all the people around me. Then, I had a pretty lucky thing happen, because as far as I can tell it doesn’t seem to happen often. A straight, devout Catholic man told me: “Don’t listen to what others think about you, it isn’t their place to judge, and don’t hate everyone around you simply because some people share things in common with the lot of them.” Essentially you need to take each person for who they are and how they act. Don’t lump them all together, and that certainly seems like what you are doing.

    I don’t expect you to like me after this post, nor I do particularly like you for generalizing everyone that isn’t in the same niche population as you as being bad people. But I do hope you know that I’m only saying this from the point of trying to understand as best I can, and to let you know that, hey, we aren’t all so bad. And yes, I did see the “sometimes”, but your response to the man above didn’t show that you actually practice any sort of separation when it comes to your perspective, please, correct me if I am wrong.

    • Suzan Says:

      Wow Owen do you have any idea how surrounded you are by the stench of privilege?

      Male privilege, and cis-privilege. Your post reeks of both.

      Some overly privileged cis-gen comes here to tell me to STFU. That I am flaunting either my being post-transsexual or my anger at a life time of oppression at the hands of a dominant class and I’m not supposed to tell him how fucked up I think he is.

      Guess what I don’t have to obey the dictates of members of the master class. I like all the rebel voices before me, like Spartacus can raise my voice and speak my righteous anger.

      I don’t much care that cis-sexual/cis-gender people are offended.

      You don’t prove or demonstrate how you aren’t one of the people I am angry with by coming here and chastising me. You demonstrate it by speaking out against the dominant culture’s transphobia.

  3. tinagrrl Says:

    Let us be clear — some in “the transgender community” treated you badly – am I correct?

    Since there is no monolithic “transgender community” you have to be a little clearer about this — don’t you think? Also, where was this? What were the circumstances?

    When did this happen? Was it something you experienced every day from the time you were about seven years old? Did your parents, or parent, dismiss you as “less than”?

    Was your education destroyed because people thought you were unemployable?

    The way the posts were written, it seems that the poor straight men, born men, suffered some discrimination AFTER coming out, as ADULTS. The poor straight men lost a measure of the privilege they always had, and took for granted. That loss is now equated with a lifetime of systematic oppression.

    Have I got it?

    Have you got it?

    Do you actually think there is a measure of equality there? Do you think having some folks reject you after coming out is equal to losing damn near EVERYONE you have known for YEARS?

    One of you doesn’t “discriminate a cent” — really? If you don’t discriminate, why does anger outrage you? Why not allow folks their anger? If you are so pure, why does our anger affect you — after all, being innocent, it doesn’t affect you — right?

    Both responses truly REEK of privilege. Both say, “I had it tough too”, both say, “I’ve been discriminated against too” — and both conclude we have NO RIGHT TO BE ANGRY! If that isn’t a case of a dominant sector of society TELLING other folks they have no right to their anger — well then, what is it?


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