A Penis and a Dress: Why the Gender Binary Needs to Go Away

This is the sort of normborn bullshit that really sets me off.  How people who aren’t transsexual think it would be worth while to totally change society and everyone in the world just to possibly end transsexuals and make it so we wouldn’t feel the gender driven need to change our bodies.

How fucking clueless is this person?

I had a sex change operation.  I’m a lot more feminine than butch. But I queer femininity by not buying into a lot of stereotypes, simply by being a sort of hippie, who thinks competence isn’t a gender specific trait.  Also my friend Ruth taught me the most important question to ask when told about getting a handi-“man” to fix something.  “Okay how is the penis involved in doing that?”

Now lifting heavy shit I totally get. But building a computer…  All that takes is a screw driver and the ability to follow instructions.

I think part of why I was labeled a sissy as a kid was I didn’t get the idea that doing stuff had a gender.

Ponder this.  I didn’t get a sex change operation because of gender.  If it were just about gender I could have stayed transgender like a number of my friends did.  I had a sex change operation to feel comfortable in my own skin, to feel at one with my body.

But this piece is just plain insulting.  Follow the links and read the comments.

From Huffington Post:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/allison-hope/gender-binary_b_1531490.html


05/22/2012

If your genitalia don’t match the gender you most identify with, the American Psychiatric Association slaps you with the weighted label “gender identity disorder.” There’s current dialogue around changing the label to “gender incongruence,” but it still boils down to the same ignorance: Society is placing judgment on you because you don’t play by the rules.

What kind of message are we continuing to send to pregnant people everywhere? We live in such a deeply gendered society that our kids have no fighting chance when it comes to freedom of gender expression. Mainstream voices continue to use the wrong dialogue to talk about those who transcend gender norms; the recent Washington Post piece “Transgender at five” is a perfect example. By using language like “gender identity problems” and “condition” to describe a child who doesn’t want to dress, act, or play like a girl just because this child was born with a vagina, the piece reinforces the existing model rather than poking holes in it. Our tunnel-visioned, outmoded landscape needs a fresh, fundamental critique. We’re looking at biological sex and gender in all the wrong ways.

The solution? We need to raze the binary gender system entirely.

A lofty, pie-in-the-sky goal, perhaps, but one that we’re entirely capable of achieving. What purpose does aligning biological sex with societal ideas of gender norms serve, anyway? Why should someone with a penis be outfitted in blue and get toy trucks while someone with a vagina gets shuffled off to ballet class and squeezed into frilly dresses? Monitoring someone’s psychosexual development might be important for health reasons, but policing their gender certainly is not. How do our constructs of “maleness” and “femaleness” contribute to a better world? They don’t.

Medical treatment, such as hormone therapy and surgery to more closely match bodies with an authentic sense of self, is currently the right decision for some people, but our existing, binary gender system makes it impossible to determine whether any of those people might feel more at home in the bodies in which they were born if only we backed away from trying to assign labels and behaviors to match our genitals. It’s likely that some people would not want physical alterations if we taught everyone from birth that the body you were given doesn’t dictate what childhood and adult expressions and activities you can engage in. In fact, not only would life get infinitely more accepting for transgender folks, but doing away with gender labels would solve millennia-old problems like misogyny, for one. Listen closely: Can you hear the glass ceiling shattering?

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Die Cis Scum

Sometimes I just love Punk Gender Queer folks.

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Sometimes I just Fucking Hate NormBorns aka Cis-Sexual/Cis-Gender People

I’m not all that fond of the words “cis-gender” and “cis-sexual”.

They lack the sarcastic, ironic edge to voice the anger I feel towards the privileged normborns.

A friend, Sophie Seidlberg, coined the term “normborn” and I prefer that because it has the same feel as the contemptuous word I used for straights back in the 1970s.

Back then, when the Christo-Fascists and right wing was coming into power I used to call straight people, “Breeders”

That term lost its edge years ago when LGBT/T people started having little LGBT/T kids.

Being or having been transsexual or being transgender means having to deal with a massive amount of bullshit normborns never have to deal with.

People wonder why most of us who can pass do so.  It is because passing allows us a modicum of ordinary life.

Like most privileged people normborns are totally unaware of their enormous amount of privilege.

This is particularly true of radical feminist academics.  Especially those that went to elite universities.

They prattle on about transsexual/transgender male privilege, while blissfully oblivious to the abuse visible transkids endure from the cradle.

Transkids are aliens born into families whose treatment of them ranges from supportive to murderously abusive.

When I meet a sister, who managed to get an education and establish a career, I’m proud of her.  I didn’t.  I had my education destroyed by endless bullying.  The education I’ve gained in the years since has been hard won.

I had friends who were driven from high school, with perhaps a GED.

I’ve seen so many of my sisters driven into sex work because that is the niche normborns have decided to allow those sisters they deprived of an education.

Repeat after me:   “Normborn sex workers are victims of trafficking and abuse, while trans-sex workers are doing it to degrade women and because they get their kicks that way.”

Gaia, I hate normborn presumptuousness and and snotty sense of privileged superiority.

I hate your fucking piss-assed platitudes about how if we didn’t have some imaginary gender binary then there wouldn’t be transsexual,s who would feel the need to have sex change operations, and people wouldn’t be transgender.

You are ignorant pigs who don’t have a fucking clue what it is like to grow up feeling an alien within your own skin.

I just love the radical feminists who want to enslave me as part of an army of transsexual/transgender warriors in their campaign to dismantle gender.

Fuck you I was born with a gift that allowed me to avoid being enslaved to murder people in southeast Asia.

You don’t fucking get to decide what battles I fight.

I am a full human being, with all the agency normborns presume to have exclusive ownership of.

I’m sick and fucking tired of your lies about us.  Your twisting everything we say or do.

You are like anti-Semites quoting from the Protocols of the Elders of Zion, only with  a different book of blood libels,  “The Transsexual Empire.”

Yeah sometimes when I read about some normborn prick getting away with cold bloodedly murdering one of my sisters  I am so beside myself with rage I nearly explode.

Or when I read of a sister defending herself from a swastika tattooed thug and his gang which was attacking her going to prison instead of the other members of the thugs gang being the ones charged I want to explode in rage.

The one thing in life that keeps me from exploding with rage at normborns is the knowledge that the vast majority of non-trans folks are good decent people who don’t want to hurt us, and while they may not understand us don’t bear us a great deal of animosity.

Usually the obvious bigots fall into the same camp as the religious-fascists, the ultra right wing and the so called radical feminists.

Wow I feel so much better now that I blurted that out.

Christian Warrior Defends Anti-Gay Pastor

Newark man found not guilty in killing of Maplewood transsexual woman

From The New Jersey Star Ledger:  http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2012/05/newark_man_found_not_guilty_in.html

By Alexi Friedman
Friday, May 25, 2012

NEWARK — In the end, it came down to the accused killer’s word against that of his former co-defendant.

Alrashim Chambers was charged with fatally shooting a transsexual woman in Maplewood after discovering her sexual identity. His one-time accomplice, who has since taken a plea deal, pointed the finger at Chambers. But Chambers pointed it right back.

An Essex County jury made its decision today when it acquitted Chambers on all counts in the Sept. 12, 2010, slaying of 28-year-old Victoria Carmen White.

The jury found Chambers, of Newark, not guilty of murder, bias intimidation and two weapons offenses. Chambers, 25, who maintained his innocence from the beginning and took the stand in his own defense, had faced up to life in prison if convicted of murder.

Chambers was charged with shooting White three times in her cousin’s studio apartment in the early morning hours, infuriated after suspecting she had been a man, prosecutors said. White, whom Chambers had met at an Irvington nightclub earlier that evening, was a lingerie model who had sex reassignment surgery a decade earlier in Thailand and had legally changed her name from ***** ******.

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7 THINGS – a trans man to the cisgender world

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Gay S. Texas senior allowed to cross-dress at graduation

From The Dallas Voice:  http://www.dallasvoice.com/gay-s-texas-senior-allowed-wear-cross-dress-graduation-10115581.html

24 May 2012

South Texas high school administrators have agreed to allow a gay senior to wear female clothing at his graduation on June 2.

Brandon Navarro originally planned to skip graduation before a talk with his principal brought permission for him to dress as he felt comfortable, KHOU News reports.

“I honestly consider myself more of a cross dresser,” said Navarro. “There are kids at my school and they are gay, but they keep it under wraps,” he told KHOU.

Navarro attends Waller High School in Waller, Texas, a city about 30 miles northwest of Houston. After skipping prom to avoid problems, Navarro said he dropped his plans to wear a dress and high heels with his long hair after a teacher reminded him of the graduation dress code. The rules require senior males to wear slacks and shirts with their hair above the collar.

Navarro’s mother then got involved and he met with the principal. While he’ll have to leave the earrings and high heels in his wardrobe, he’ll be able to wear a dress under his gown.

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