Perhaps I should define what “mansplaining” is before I start describing how this applies to way to many male transvestites and how mansplaining occupies way to big a role in the Transgender Borg ideology.
BTW… I take it as a complement when a transvestite or one of the Transgender Borg describe me as a Second Wave Radical Feminist. But then I have a different view of the term.
From Urban Dictionary:
to delighting in condescending, inaccurate explanations delivered with rock solid confidence of rightness and that slimy certainty that of course he is right, because he is the man in this conversationEven though he knew she had an advanced degree in neuroscience, he felt the need to mansplain “there are molecules in the brain called neurotransmitters”
To explain in a patronizing manner, assuming total ignorance on the part of those listening. The mansplainer is often shocked and hurt when their mansplanation is not taken as absolute fact, criticized or even rejected altogether.The members of the equestrian community were unimpressed when Bob posted an essay that mansplained a solution to a horsy problem they were all well-acquainted with.
Despite claims of superior strength in avoiding over-emotional reactions, when a man encounters even one iota of criticism of men on the internet, he must then mansplain why women suck by comparison or must be radical feminists.
Mansplain–to put women down in response to criticism.Even though Mansplain only points out a specific aspect of what some men do but not in every context, explainerOrMansplainer and Wicker33 were so overcome by the inability to accept criticism and had to condescendingly mansplain how women must be either dumb; (ironically) unable to take criticism (derp!); or should be dismissed as radical.
To explain something in an unnecessarily long winded way, so as to dominate the conversation, and to make statements that are not based on facts, assuming that people will believe and agree with him because he is male.
“The recession was caused by the government because it spent too much money and people should look after themselves and not expect society to look after its members or its community… ad nauseam.
…Therefore its all womens fault.”
A word typically used to imply that the previous speaker is overly condescending and/or has a different way of explaining because he happens to be a man and the other party a woman. Usually, this is based in an over- or misinterpretation based on prejudice about the alleged mainsplainers intentions or on an inability to take constructive feedback. Sometimes it is used as an attempt to unfairly discredit the speaker or his arguments without having to provide counter-arguments. Typically, the mansplainer is simultaneously implied to be sexist or misogynistic.
Explainee: Women only earn 80 cents for every dollar a man makes. This is a grave injustice.
Explainer: That is a misleading statement. In fact, after correcting for factors like hours worked, experience, physical danger involved, etc., the differences is just a few percent.
Explainee (sarcastic): Thank you for mansplaining! I would never have thought of that with my tiny little brain!
What prompted me to think about this was a piece last week on Amanda Marcotte’s Pandagon:
While I was not feeling up to much writing these past couple of days, that didn’t stop me from provoking anti-choicers on Twitter to disparage contraception, so that I could then retweet them and help further understanding of where the attack on reproductive rights are coming from. After all, it’s a surprisingly easy task that a lobotomized monkey could probably do, but no less entertaining for it. And in doing so, I had a revelation. It came after yet another dude (and so far, out of the dozens of people who explain to me that female sexuality is only for procreation, and not for pleasure, only one has been female) condescendingly explained that contraception “cheapens” sex, presumably by making it something you can have on more than an annual basis, I decided to have some more fun. After all, every time a guy explains that the tools we use to have frequent, spontaneous, carefree sex are naughty, he’s basically hanging a sign around his neck that says, “I don’t get laid much, if at all, so I don’t really know how this works.” Listening to anti-choice nuts talk about sex is like listening to Mitt Romney explain hip-hop. They’re so painfully out of the loop you can’t decide if you want to laugh at them or cringe in embarrassment for them. So I told the guy, hey look, when you say these things, people aren’t persuaded of anything but that you don’t know what the fuck sex is like.
At what point he told me defensively that he’s a virgin. To which I dusted off a hoary old joke and said, “Don’t play the game? Don’t make the rules.” Hey, at least it’s funnier than the aspirin-between-the-knees bit, and has the advantage of being true. To which he said I was being “ad hominem”, which is a phrase apparently 100% of conservatives think means “you’re wrong because you bested a conservative in an argument, and that’s against the rules we wrote”.
That’s when it occurred to me that one of the things that’s feeding the outrage about the contraception thing is that it’s a big clusterfuck of mansplaining.
Then I had several rambling rants from transvestite/Transgender Borg person hiding behind different aliases start mansplaining to me about how I was a nasty radical feminist cunt and a stupid man hater.
All because I have the courage to say that half of the bullshit put out by the Transgender Borg is pure Virginia Prince mansplaining as to why men dressed as women should be allowed in women’s spaces. I also had a bunch of mansplaining as to how women who point out how men have a history of rape and abuse of women are guilty of misandry.
Misandry is a Men’s Rights advocates term that is sort of like the right wing idea that rich white men are the most oppressed people on the face of the earth, especially when kids with the top grades at the poorest and shittiest schools get a few bonus points added to their college applications that border line white pricks who barely made it through their 20K per year prep school don’t get.
Oh the unfairness of it all.
Back in 1972 our office at the National Transsexual Counseling Unit inherited a box of books, along with a couple of biographies and Benjamin’s book were a couple of books by “Charles ‘Virginia’ Prince” sic. One was called “A Transvestite and His Wife”, a book that taught transvestites how to mansplain to their wives how their drive to dress in women’s clothes wasn’t a perversion (yes Prince used those words) and how to flatter (con) one’s wife into going along with her husband’s transvestism.
The other book “How to be a Woman Though Male” offered the basis for mansplaining the idea of “Gender”.
It doesn’t take Radical Feminism to see that substituting Gender for Sex oppresses women. Anyone who has studied the Second Wave critiques of oppressive sex roles should be able to see that. Anyone who remembers when jobs were defined as being something for men or something for women to do should be wary regarding the substituting of gender for sex. Why? Because despite all the verbiage gender is about defined roles and not some sort of physical reality.
When male transgender folks start mansplaining to post-transsexual women why the Transgender Borg get to claim them as transgender forever, even if they don’t want to be part the Transgender Borg, it transcends mansplaining to flat out verbal abuse. I honestly don’t give a shit about your fictional dichotomy of cis-gender/transgender. When you start mansplaining it to me I just hear a cloud of “dickspeak”.
I honestly don’t care about how oppressed you feel at not being able to barge into a communal women’s changing area and join the females. If you pass well enough to pull that one off and are discreet enough not to get caught, more power to you but I’ve been raped, I’ve had men expose themselves to me in inappropriate places and know how many seriously sick men there are out there.
You don’t get to recruit me to your cause and call me names because I consider myself to be a part of the community of women and not the transgender community.
I don’t see requiring letters from doctors attesting to your being on hormones and in treatment for trans-issues as some unreasonable requirement to expect, prior to your feeling free to use the women’s restroom. So skip the mansplaining as to why I’m being horribly oppressive.
I’m all for social politeness and sensitive use of pronouns, just as I am all for employment and housing non-discrimination. I support hate crimes laws and special accommodations for transgender prisoners. But I’m not willing to go along with imposing those accommodations upon women.
Too often Transspeak, the Transgender Borg version of mansplaining sounds like a word game where women are asked to go along with the changing of the meaning of words. At the same time in their eagerness for numbers the Transgender Borg have claimed so many marginal “identities” that the term “Transgender” no longer has any real meaning.
I don’t have much at all in common with major sections of the “transgender community” as I told a Dallas Activist the other night politics mean more to me than any trans-prefixed label. It means something to me that we see each other at various demonstrations for different causes around the Dallas area. Hell there are a lot of post-transsexuals I have little in common with. I’m a left wing lesbian feminist. Transsexualism doesn’t mandate politics.
Telling me I’m stupid or retro because I just don’t get it (Transgender Borg Ideology) is mansplaining not an argument.