With same-sex marriage on hold, elderly and ailing couples face a lengthy appeals process

As I have stated before Marriage Equality has a higher personal priority for me than a Transgender-Inclusive ENDA.  This is because I am old and in an unprotected partnership.

Marriage equality is crucially important for many of us who are aging members of the LGBT/T communities.

While there is a stereotype of all post-SRS women of a transsexual history being straight it often seems as though at least half of us are lesbian.

We can’t play some sort of heterosexual privilege Birth Certificates game that allows us to marry since we are both WBT.  some of the dismissal of marriage equality has struck me as heterosexist and some of the language used on the part of certain transgender activist reminds me how much of a late comer to the Gay and Lesbian Community the Transgender Community actually is.  Even though many would like to include those post-transsexual sisters who assimilated into the lesbian communities under the transgender umbrella many of us did our part in the lesbian community not as transsexual or transgender women but simply as lesbian women, therefore many of us do not view our activities  counting as being “transgender participation in gay and lesbian history.

But the principle of walking and chewing gum at the same time comes into play here.  Getting beyond the narrow focus of identity politics and working on many issues with many different people at the same time comes into play.

In other words, “Grow up!  Everything isn’t just about you.  If you want others to work with you on your issues, you have to work with them on theirs.”  The oppression Olympics are part of the problem not part of the solution.

From The Los Angeles Times: http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-adv-gay-marriage-stay-20110328,0,3793066.story

Judges last week extended a stay on same-sex marriage until higher courts rule on Prop. 8. Derence Kernek and Ed Watson hope that process will move faster than the advance of Watson’s Alzheimer’s disease.

By Carol J. Williams, Los Angeles Times
March 27, 2011

Reporting from Palm Springs—

Derence Kernek and Ed Watson live together each day in fear that they won’t be able to pledge “till death do us part” before it’s too late.

Watson, 78, is in rapidly failing health, afflicted with Alzheimer’s disease, obesity, diabetes and hypertension.

A federal appeals court ruled last week that same-sex marriage will remain on hold in California until a judge’s ruling striking down Proposition 8 as unconstitutional makes its way through the higher courts — reviews expected to take a year or more.

“We don’t have the money to travel to a state where it’s legal,” said Kernek, 80, observing dejectedly that the travel would probably be too grueling for his partner of 40 years. “Besides, we wanted to do it in California, where our friends are, where we live. Now I don’t think we’ll be able to, not while Ed can still remember.”

The ticking clock on Watson’s awareness was one of a chronicle of arguments presented to the U.S. 9th Circuit Court of Appeals in an unsuccessful bid to convey the urgency of letting same-sex marriage resume during the protracted appeals process.

A 9th Circuit panel made up of Judges Stephen Reinhardt, Michael Daly Hawkins and N. Randy Smith denied the request Wednesday without explanation.

Continue reading at:  http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-adv-gay-marriage-stay-20110328,0,3793066.story

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