Women Born Transsexual

You can bitch at me for these observations, but if you are honest you admit they have crossed your mind too…

Some things have just gotta be said:

Is any one else as sick as I am of the so called “transman” Thomas Beatie’s  parlor trick of baby dropping?  WTF?  Just because you can do it doesn’t mean you have to join the freaking quiver full movement.

It is tired and just makes transsexuals who want to be taken seriously look foolish.  It has turned into a “Stupid Trannie Trick”.

Like those who use birth certificate games to enter “same sex marriages”.  Hint it isn’t a same sex marriage if the state views it as a heterosexual one.  If you want to marry a same sex partner and your state doesn’t recognize same sex marriage then a road trip is in order.

Going on Jerry Springer or any other “Reality TV Show” and outing yourself is always a bad idea.  Especially if you aren’t into exploiting the exposure.

Acting like you have real heterosexual privilege and not getting wills as well as certified documents saying your partner was aware of your medical history is both stupid and asking for grief.  For what it is worth…  Even though it is a heterosexual marriage get married someplace that recognizes marriage equality.  That is what inter-racial couples used to do and for now so should you.

Then there is a survey being circulated by Mona Rae Mason…

It claims to be studying attraction to transsexual/transgender people by other transsexual /transgender people.  It is located at:  http://www.surveymonkey.com/s/X9BBY3R. Now why has this survey set me off even more than most of them?  For one thing I have a WBT life partner.  For another thing I have had several extended intimate relationships with either WBTs or with transgender women.

The study does the same sort of fetishizing of TS/TG women that one finds in she/male or transvestite literature.  It never looks beyond the sexually objectifying.

When it got to the type appearances/clothing that turned me on I said jeans and slogan t-shirts with piercings and tats, “Lisbeth Salander.”  I was kidding but mostly I am drawn to people who like art and literature and are more at home on a picket line/concert/museum/used book store/funky restaurant than in some sort of glamorous erotic setting.

Why do people doing these sorts of studies try to treat us like transvestites or she/male hookers?  One expects more from someone in the transgender community.

When will I ever learn to not expect more?

From The Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/naomi-wolf/god-crashes-the-tea-party_b_668922.html

Naomi Wolf

Bestselling Author, The End of America: Letter of Warning to a Young Patriot

OXFORD — Where does America put God? Historically, there has always been tension between the separation of church and state that the United States has enshrined in its Constitution and regular upsurges of religious faith, even religious extremism, that seek an outlet in the political process — or even seek to dominate it.

Nowhere is this tension more visible today than in the struggle for the political soul of the Tea Party. For, as the coalition on the religious right that dominated American conservatism since the 1980’s has begun to fall apart, some of the same Christian fundamentalist elements are seeking to absorb — some would say take over — the originally non-sectarian Tea Party.

The Tea Party emerged from a laudably grassroots base: libertarians, fervent Constitutionalists, and ordinary people alarmed at the suppression of liberties, whether by George W. Bush or Barack Obama. Libertarians, of course, tend to understand church-state separation: if you don’t want government intruding in your life, you definitely don’t want it telling you how to worship.

This anti-establishmentarian impulse is a time-honored tradition in America, where advocacy of separation of church and state — a radical view in the late eighteenth century — was driven by the experiences of religious minorities such as Quakers, Huguenots, and Puritans, all of whom suffered religious persecution in Britain and France.

Unfortunately, religious bigotry also has a long history in America, and there are powerful factions that cannot accept that God did not intend the US to be a Christian nation. Ronald Reagan saw the benefit of tapping these constituencies, introducing a faith-first element into what had been a more secularized, “big tent” conservatism.

Since the 1980’s, “culture wars” (usually staged) about homosexuality, abortion, and sex education, or other coded messaging about religious values, have served to mobilize the religious right. Bush’s early avowal of his conversion experience was given in language poll-tested for acceptance by fundamentalist Christians.

Continue Reading at:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/naomi-wolf/god-crashes-the-tea-party_b_668922.html

I’m so freaking sick of the crap usage that goes like this:  “So and so was born a man.”  Or  “So and so was born a woman.”

Are these people morons or what?

One is not born a man or a woman.  to paraphrase Simone de Beauvoir, one becomes one.

One is assigned male or female at birth based on the appearance of genitals.

Instead of headlines labeling Nikki as being born a man it would be more appropriate to say she was assigned male at birth based on genital appearances.  Transsexualism is physically invisible intersex condition with its earliest manifestations seen in cross gender behavior.

Use instead: “Assigned male at birth.”  or “Assigned female at birth.”

“You shouldn’t have to be a hero to make it through adolescence.”
(Youth advocate quoted in Drifting Toward Love by Kai Wright.)

All stories have a beginning. Most of the 65 young respondents I interviewed for the book: Coming Out, Coming Home: Helping Families Adjust to a Gay or Lesbian Child (www.comingoutcominghome.com), described the realization that they had same-sex attractions as a slow dawning coupled with a nagging realization that something was wrong–very wrong, with the way they felt. They understood that if their peers or their parents discovered their sexual feelings, they risked becoming objects of rejection and abuse.

Unfortunately, for some of these kids, their peers figured out what was up. Adolescents are hawk-eyed guardians of the status quo, harshly punishing those whose behavior falls outside of society’s narrow gender norms–and for some of the unlucky respondents in my study who inadvertently revealed cross-gendered behavior, the consequences were brutal.

Once I hit middle school I think really other kids figured out before I did.
I used to get picked on for being gay all the time and I didn’t know what it
meant. . . .I wasn’t the most masculine kid (Recalled by a twenty-one-year-old gay man).

I got beat up a lot. I didn’t have many friends, they were kind of put off.
A lot of the guys would pick on me. . . . They would call me dyke and beat
me up (Twenty-year-old lesbian).

Continue reading at:  http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/gay-and-lesbian-well-being/201008/professionals-must-recognize-and-stop-anti-gay-bullying

From Alternet:

http://www.alternet.org/reproductivejustice/147712/why_do_red_states_have_the_worst_%22family_values%22/#disqus_thread

By Amy DePaul, Bookslut
Posted on August 2, 2010, Printed on August 3, 2010
http://www.alternet.org/story/147712/

Are conservative values voters who consider themselves pro-family more likely to divorce than their liberal counterparts?

Law professors Naomi Cahn and June Carbone had what they call their “ah-ha moment” when they started looking at how states voted in presidential elections and compared the results to social trends in those states. They found that states voting red — presumably for socially conservative, “pro-family” candidates — also had high divorce rates, higher than in blue states. Building on their research, Cahn and Carbone then developed theories about family formation in the U.S. and its relationship to political affiliation.

In their book Red Families v. Blue Families: Legal Polarization and the Creation of Culture, the authors explain that “red families” believe adulthood is forged by the responsibilities of getting married and having children early. Blue families, by contrast, defer marriage and childbirth until after they have reached adulthood, which usually follows economic and educational attainment. The reasons for the sharp divide are rooted in economic changes and personal belief systems, which both authors discussed with me recently. Their comments, culled from conversations via the telephone and e-mail, follow.

How did you get started on this area of research?

Cahn: What started us in looking at this was that as we watched the ’04 election and we saw the moral values commentary unfolding, we looked at the polling and divorce statistics. So our first “ah ha” moment was looking at the correlation between divorce rates and family characteristics and how likely a state was to vote red or blue. As we probed further, we saw an amazing congruence between how a state voted and their divorce rate.

Continue reading at:  http://www.alternet.org/reproductivejustice/147712/why_do_red_states_have_the_worst_%22family_values%22/#disqus_thread