When I listen to the crap coming from the mouths of some of my right wing heterosexual Post-SRS “sisters” regarding marriage equality I am forced to question the powerfulness of sisterhood.
First of all marriage equality isn’t about “gay marriage” even calling it that removes lesbians from the equation. The proper term is same sex marriage. “Gay Marriage” is the preferred usage of Taliban Christers and rabid right wing assholes.
Now mind you that something like 2/3 of post-SRS women are lesbian or bisexual in orientation so marriage equality is an important issue for us. Especially now that the economics and class realities have made it harder for throwaway urchins like me who found the downward mobility elevator stopping at the floor marked lumpen proles to actually get SRS.
A lot of people who were my peers and got SRS at the same time I did were able to do so because it was cheap and it was also possible to live on air as rents were cheap and so were other costs of living. Class privilege plays a role in whether one is able to get SRS or not these days. So marriage equality makes heterogendered but technically same sex marriage possible and that makes it economically easier for some to get their SRS. Especially considering the strangeness of corporate for profit medical care rationing programs allowing spousal coverage for only married couples.
Marriage equality insures that existing marriages entered into before one comes out are in no way threatened, either before or after the fact.
But the oddest of all, the most Kool Aid chugging of arguments is that marriage equality would make the marriage of a sister to a man into a “gay marriage”. To which I say, only if your peers are right wing Taliban Christers. But then if they know your history they aready think of you in the same terms as the queens who show up on Jerry Springer to brawl for the edification of tabloid TV watchers.
The venomous homophobia spewed by some sisters is up there with that spewed by Ted Haggard and Larry Craig as well as a number of other rabid right wing closet cases before their being exposed by folks like Mike Rogers. It speaks volumes more about your own insecurities than of your sense of femaleness.
The secure position is indifference not turning into a hate spewing Ann Coulter doll filling the room with epithets every time some one yanks your string.
The secure position is realizing that your rights are not based on the oppressing of others.
Marriage equality does not threaten my sureness in my being female.