Strange Assumptions

Nerissa Belcher made a comment on “Pathologizing our partners” that bugged me on several levels but mostly for the assumptions she made.

First let me get a major sticking point out of the way “bio-gals and GGs” are politically unacceptable terms on this list. I use WBT for post-SRS sisters and WBF or women born female for natal women. Cradle women or natal women are aslo better terms that tend to keep the playing field level.

Over some 40 years or so I have seen us had being straight, lesbian, bisexual and asexual with a few into various kink.

One of the most dickwad heterosexist assumptions is that women who are lesbians are that way because they can not get a man. This assumse that all men are somehow more attractive than all women and that one would have to be some sort of loser to not have a relationship with a man.

Or that we opt for a relationship with a sister because we are such losers that we can’t get a “bio-gal”. That train of thought shows a serious lack of self worth. Over the years I have found that many of my sisters are some of the brightest most charming women I have ever had the pleasure of meeting.

Further the idea we are losers because we associate with sister or that we live in the imaginary “transghetto” because of that is another false assumption since our involvement might only consist of a couple of phone calls every month or so, perhaps a once a year get together and an on line presence.

But then too the fact that there are some super cool, brilliant sister out ther with the same skewed sense of the absurd is reason enough for those sorts of friendships.

Indeed when these assumptions get put together they seem like some gender therapist’s prescription aimed at insuring a returning clientele that feels crappy about themselves, alone and isolated etc.

Integrating into post-SRS life has only one real rule and that is to say fuck off to anyone’s list of assumptions and rule that you are supposed to follow. Or the idea that you should feel bad for failing live up to some imaginary set of rules. Screw that idea. Do what is right for you and quit the judgmental bullshit regarding the lives of others. Perhaps they are doing what is right for them.

Over the last 40 years I’ve had sisters get weird on me when I was a radical feminist with a WBF lover. Does this mean you are going to go back?

I had a couple call a Sansei Japanese American man I was seeing a gook.

Call me a “nigger lover” when I had a relationship with a black man

And all sorts of weird names when I was in a relationship with a Cuban American transgender sister.

The real pisser is that a couple of these judgmental assholes never had a relationship that was anything more than a casual date with sex and I had passionate relationships that lasted for months and sometimes longer.

I have been in a committed relationship with Tina that started on-line and on the phone since the start of 2001 and we have physically been together since 2002.

Autogynephilia in Women

Moser, C. (in press).   Autogynephilia in Women.  Journal of Homosexuality.

Charles Moser, PhD, MD

Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality

Charles Moser, PhD, MD, is Professor and Chair, Department of Sexual Medicine, Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, San Francisco, CA 94114.

Correspondence may be addressed:  Charles Moser, PhD, MD, 45 Castro Street, #125, San Francisco, CA 94114.  (E-mail:

The author would like to thank Peggy J. Kleinplatz, PhD, for her very helpful editorial assistance and Walter Bockting, PhD for his comments on an earlier version of the manuscript.


Autogynephilia, an erotic interest in the thought or image of oneself as a woman, has been described as a sexual interest of some male-to-female transsexuals (MTFs); the term has not been applied to natal women.  To test the possibility that natal women also experience autogynephilia, an Autogynephilia Scale for Women (ASW) was created from items used to categorize MTFs as autogynephilic in other studies.  A questionnaire which included the ASW was distributed to a sample of 51 professional women employed at an urban hospital, 29 completed questionnaires were returned for analysis.  By the common definition of ever having erotic arousal to the thought or image of oneself as a woman, 93% of the respondents would be classified as autogynephilic.  Using a more rigorous definition of “frequent” arousal to multiple items, 28% would be classified as autogynephilic.  The implications of these findings are discussed concerning the sexuality of women and the meaning of autogynephilia for MTFs.

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Transkid Barred From Catholic School

Parents Of 8-Year-Old Allow ‘Him’ To Live As ‘Her’

POSTED: 10:58 am EDT May 18, 2009

UPDATED: 3:55 pm EDT May 18, 2009

OMAHA, Neb. — An Omaha couple is allowing their 8-year-old son to openly live life as a girl. It’s a decision that means the child is no longer able to attend Catholic school. Therapists and the child’s parents say the second grade student is transsexual, a medical condition where a person’s inner sense of identity doesn’t match their biological gender. Some gender experts say as many as one in 500 people may be transsexual or carry significant traits of the opposite sex.

“It’s kind of like you’re trapped somewhere and you can’t get out,” said the child, whose name and face are not being made public to protect the family from potential harm.

“She’s been a girl since the beginning, everything about her, the way she dances and skips around and the things she’s attracted to. It’s more than toys and clothes,” said the child’s mother.

[continue reading although you will have to correct their lame usage of transgender instead of the more appropriate transsexual through out.]