Blanchard’s latest crap dates back into the 1960s and Virginia Prince’s conversations with Stoller and perhaps even longer.
For certain people any man who has sex with us is either decieved or has dubious tendencies.
If we have sex with men and get SRS it is because we can’t accept our homosexuality or because straight men are supposed to be ultra attractive.
I came out in the Stonewall era so that one was rather laughable considering some of the most charming and physically attractive men were gay.
Gay men aren’t interested in us although some are attracted to our T to M brothers. When I was first exploring my sexuality in the era of sexual freedom I tried sex with gay men and found it rather unsatisfying as did they.
Then a few months after I came out and had been on hormones for some six months this good looking pot dealer hit on me, he was straight and was reacting to my femininity. When we had sex I was the girl in bed and set the pattern I would follow as a pre-op of telling him I did not want him to touch me there.
A few months later I had a lover, a Marine Corp deserter. Our relationship started based on “Women say yes to men who say No!” Very Lysistrata but also one of those things that we did back in the 1960 when we were better people than we are today.
It was a heterosexual relationship on every level except for my having parts of my body I placed off limits. Yet the academics and psychiatrists as well as the uber right wing religious fucks called our relationship gay. Said we were both in denial. At the height of gay liberation no less they said that of two people who considered themselves “Revolutionaries”.
The pathologizing of our partners continues after SRS and has its roots in the religious ideology that fucking is for procreation and not for fun. The same ideology that says no to abortion rights and birth control for women and at the same time preaches abstenence going so far in certain cultures to stone women who aren’t chaste outside marriage.
This pathologizing is religion in pseudo scientific drag, a sort of post moderning of language mutating it from religious to psychopathological.
Actual people’s loving relationships be damned.