The thing that has struck me over the years as a transsexual involved with transgender and transvestite men is that there are so very few of us and so many of “them” claiming to be like us that from the viewpoint of the uninformed the weight of credibility lies with the transgenderist. All the effort we exert in opposition becomes fragmented and treated as lies or at least lacking credibility through the sheer weight of numbers against us.
It’s small wonder that the vast majority move on keep their mouths shut and get on with lives in mainstream society keeping narratives firmly closed.
I’m on several mailing lists. I run this Blog. My life partner and I coined WBT over 8 years ago and as soon as I started talking about WBT and the importance of those of us who actually get SRS having our own identity separate from Transgender I found myself being trashed. I had been invited to show the same retrospective of my photographic work Transsexual News Telegraph had recently published at a Trans Pride Event. I was disinvited.
I’ve been a radical for some 45 years and I’ve developed a pretty thick skin. Harsh words do not dissuade me from my opinions. But a lot of folks aren’t into having a folder marked “Hate Mail”
Seriously reading other sisters biographies is a real start. Seeing the commonness of our life experience. We stopped being the “only one” the first time we read an article or book by or about another person like us.
Being friends with even a few other sisters ends that feeling of isolation. And what does it really say about us if we look at friendships with others who have shared this common life experience as some how living in the ghetto?
I’m good at compartmentialization as are most people. I don’t need to know my co-worker handles snakes and speaks in tongues as part of their religious practice and they don’t need to know everything about me.
I don’t let people who came out last month tell me experience doesn’t count when it really does.
While I have to work unlike others like Autumn Sandeen I can still post comments to the blogs of others, I can blog and I’m working on a book.
I’m an old left wing radical woman and You just gotta know that being a professional transsexual peddling books and speaking engagements looks better than spending the rest of my life working retail.
Mostly though why should I STFU. I do that and my thinking and opinion get erased.
I was SDS and Weather.. Not exactly one to run from a fight. My heroes were Emma Goldman, Mother Jones and Lucy Parson. I want to go to my grave protesting.
No one can erase you or silence you unless you let them. Some things are worth fighting for .