Last week I wrote a post on my blog about guy culture and anal sex. The gist of it was this
…the thing that really strikes me lately is a certain feature of hetero male culture that seems deeply inconsistent to me. If a group of straight guys is discussing something unpleasant, like a tax audit, or some stressful event at work, or an upcoming exam, or some interaction with police, they always, always, always use the same analogy. Which is? …you guessed it: getting fucked in the ass. Yep. That’s it. In hetero-man-language, this is how you convey that something is veryveryvery unpleasant and/or painful. It’s a staple in movies that are meant to appeal to men. The most recent instance of this that I’ve seen was in Hancock. But most male-oriented comedies and action movies play off this meme. We could talk about the latent homophobia involved here, or take this discussion in a number of different directions. But what’s really interesting to me is the deeply contradictory message involved.
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Even as a teenager before I came out I had boys hitting on me with the implication that it wouldn’t make them queer to have me give them oral sex or to let themfuck me in the ass. After all I was the transkid and they were opportunists.