Rather than “normalness”, something that strikes me as mandated social construct, a chmera that exists as a little conformed to ideal what happened to me after SRS was a gradual growth into ordinariness.
When Tina and I started the WBT post-op list we made it for post-SRS women because we didn’t want to continually relive the process of change.
It is exciting and driven for people going through it. Indeed some people feel a let down after it is all over with. People in process expect those who went through it to have words of wisdom and guidance to offer them in their struggles with the process. And we might if we choose to make being a guide or a counselor our life’s work or even our volunteer work. But for most of us time and distance from that period of transition means that about all we really have to offer goes something like this, “You too can do this just as others have. After SRS you will continue to grow until one day you discover you really aren’t much different from all the women who were born female that are part of your enviroment.”
There was a time when having had the operation made on special because there weren’t very many of us. Now it is rather common and we have to rely on talents or abilities to be special.
So many of our concerns are the same concerns everyone else has. Global warming, the economy, corporate domination of our lives. Aging, relationships.
Many of us are alienated from our families, some of us are happy, some of us suffer depression.
Some of us are in recovery, others have substance issues. None of these things are particular to us because of our medical histories but the social stigmatization due to that medical history tends to make our lives more problem filled than the lives of those who were not born with TS.