Male Privilege and Heterosexual Male Transvestites

I’m not one of those “nice feminists” who succor heterosexual male transvestites.

I don’t shop for them.  I don’t tell them what make-up to buy. I didn’t put up with them hitting on me in lesbian bars because they knew I was WBT and they expected me to be nice.

When I used to go to dyke bars it was to do my version of “The L-Word” character Shane. If I wanted to kaikai with a non-op Id have gone to a queen hang out.

You see, because I am a feminist I understand the patriarchal oppression of women.  Because I was an obvious transkid I faced bullying on a daily basis.  Bullying mandated by an invisible sky daddy cum bully who demanded the enforcement of heteronormative masculinist behavior on transkids as well as on the other obvious kids in the LGB/T/TQ alphabet soup.

I see heterosexual transvestites as playing dress-up while maintaining all their straight male privilege.  Even drag queens who only dress up for events do not have that straight male privilege as they are gay 24/7/365.  When you dress up in the closet and even your friends and neighbors do not know then you are like Marie Antoinette dressing up and playing sheppard as the masses starved in pre-1789 France.

If you expect applause and a pat on your dress clad back don’t look for it from me.

If you are the obvious transvestite and his wife who shops at the store where I work and my co-workers snicker regarding your pancaked stubble don’t expect more than a shrug of the shoulders and an “It takes all kinds” as a defense of your behavior on my part.  If your appearence and behavior is such that it upsets women when you enter the women’s room don’t expect me to defend you because I’m a woman and if other women are upset then the likelihood is I will be too.

If your wife leaves you I will probably take her side because as a feminist I always put the interests of women before those of men.

As a bisexual who has made the political choice to identify as lesbian and who is aware of the homophobia practiced by Tri-Ess and many heterosexual transvestite organizations I have more than enough work to do promoting queer rights and queer equality than to waste my time on helping the oppressor just because he plays dress-up.

4 Responses to “Male Privilege and Heterosexual Male Transvestites”

  1. tinagrrl Says:

    I would find it difficult to write a daily blog on being WBT — after a while, most posts would read: “I woke up, washed up, went to the bathroom, checked my blood sugar, had breakfast and took my meds.

    I promised myself I’d do laundry today — not that it’s necessary, but it is time. I’d better do some shopping today, even though I really don’t feel like it.

    there are also other chores to do…………………..

    In other words, very little of my life is involved with being WBT, as opposed to being a woman without that history.

    If I support any causes these days, they are usually going to be about expanded marriage rights, overall LGBT equality, women’s rights and Progressive Politics.

    We recreate by going to concerts, museums, and going fishing. I really like fishing, and have for almost 60 years. Perhaps that makes me different from most women — but, not that odd here in Texas.

    Being WBT has no bearing on any of these activities.

  2. Suzan Says:

    Well I sort of manage to find more than enough material within my primary anarcho-feminist lezzie queer world of the of the under paid and over educated post-industrial wasteland inhabited by the working poor.

    The only hard part is spinning it so WBTs can relate to it.

    I strongly suspect that some of the initial issues will burn out quickly. After all I am pretty clear regarding my lack of sympathy towards heterosexual transvestites. I’m a moderate and supportive of those who make the commitment and walk the walk of living 24/7/365 with hormones and or top surgery when it comes to non-discrimination.

    Mostly though I am afraid with all the attacks on LGBT/T rights and people coming from the religious-Nazis and the heterosexist patriarchy I not only will not lack for material but will get snowed under.

    There are real issues other than bad mouthing TVs. That probably falls into the category of recreational venting and be a form of horizontal hostility. a hobby and a distraction from the real struggle.

    So many murders. So much self destruction. So much bullshit heterosexist oppression. Looking at the picture through a wide angle instead of the narrow field of focus provided by a microscopic examination brings us into the world of economic oppression and invariably into the world where women are second class citizens and queers are third class at best.

    I am also hoping to have others submitting material as well as dragging and dropping news articles.

  3. Suzy CC Says:

    The only problem I see is that there is a distinction (artificial to my way of thinking) being made here between women “with history” and women without… If you leave the “transitive” part of this equation out, our issues become woman’s issues, no different really than any other woman’s issues don’t you think?

    So what then of transvestites and others of their ilk? Is it not in the end that this issue, stripped of its umbrella, is also no different for us than it is for women without a history? Bottom line is not the pushing by the TV / TG for inclusion nothing more than men once again invading woman’s space?

  4. tinagrrl Says:

    When we came up with WBT – Women Born Transsexual – there was an additional statement. It was: Women Born Transsexual (but still women).

    This was an answer to WBW and exclusion.

    Most of us had rather atypical childhood experiences. Many of us were picked on day after day. The term “sissy” was thrown about daily. Getting beaten, teased, chased, was a daily occurrence. After a while,I would do almost anything to make it stop.

    I retreated into books — as did many of us.

    In addition, I think many parents tried to promote “boyish” behavior. It might well work with boys — I think we often see it as abuse. Stuff that works with boys does not work with us.

    To put it simply, we didn’t have “boyhoods” — we had “transhoods”.

    i remember, very clearly, making a DECISION to be a boy – this when I entered High School – in the fall of 1952.

    THAT was “gender as a construct”. Since I didn’t know what I was doing, I look back and realize I was a total asshole. — but, I was doing the best I could.

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