I’m very likely to disappoint a lot of you who are expecting me to be much more anti-transgenders than I am.
As I said (and my life partner as well as others involved in starting the whole WBT meme) much of out anger could be resolved by respecting boundaries and the different needs of different groups instead of erasing post-SRS women’s lives under that umbrella of transgender.
I am often blamed and cited as saying harsher things than generally reflect my overall opinions on a number of issues. I’ve also been very argumentative at times particularly back in the 1990s when I was still drinking. Hell even now I sometimes say stuff I regret when I get involved in fights. This isn’t helped by having a serious potty mouth.
To make one thing clear I support all transinclusive hate crimes bills and a transinclusive ENDA. I support the legalization of Same Sex Marriage.
Part of what led me to feeling the need for making this statement was the death of Jennifer Gale, a homeless transgender veteran who died of exposure in the streets of Austin a couple of months ago. Now I am of the opinion that no veteran should ever be allowed to become homeless and that the richest should be taxed to pay for this.
Something else came to mind and that is a lot of WBTs can just assimilate and some have far better paying jobs than I do. What could we do that involves only sending a check or even something through Paypal. Reed Erickson many years ago started a foundation. It funded the NTCU in San Francisco where I worked way back when.
Reed didn’t need to do that yet he felt it would be a good thing.
I have watched over the past few year as transkids have gotten murdered as soon as they came out. Before they ever had a chance to learn what was dangerous and what was not as dangerous in the way of behavior. As the rap goes we are not socialized and it is hard to become socialized without living or doing.
As for me I’m done with snotty behavior on both sides of the question of out vs stealth. The reality for most of us lies somewhere in-between. Further if you are posting to a trans anything list, Usenet, blogs or running your own blog any claims you make to being Stealth better have the same level of irony I associate with Calpurnia and Andrea’s “Deep Stealth Productions” either that or there must be a sense of privacy that doesn’t exist in public forums.
Mostly I feel you don’t have the right to instruct other sisters on their right to live their lives as they choose. That extends to Kate Bornstein too and means I think putting down someone by calling them a “Professional Trannie” sucks. I’ll make an exception on this rule regarding Ann Coulter and her alleged connection to a transprefixed word.
The same goes for people who are in the public too. Y’all don’t get to slam folks who go off and don’t post to the afore mentioned forums.
When it comes to relationships… Almost everyone of us has had a rocky history. Some of us are straight, some lesbian, some bisexual and some are asexual. An awful lot of us live lonely lives with no one. Same Sex Marriage is beneficial to all of us no matter what since it prevents any marriages we have from before being challenged, any heterosexual marriages we may enter in to or any same sex marriage we may want to enter into become permitted and can not be challenged. Now I’ve heard some sisters say, “I don’t want a same sex marriage.” Well that isn’t how this works. There are no separate but equal forms for either heterosexual or same sex couples.
Besides those same Reich Wing Christo-Fascists who are harping on about same sex marriage would nulify any right we have to marry anyone of either sex if they could. Indeed the only people we might be allowed to marry if they have their way are F to Ms and even that is doubtful.
Being pissed off by some of the politics of transgender doesn’t mean I hate people who are transgender or wish to throw them under the bus. That takes us back to mutual respect for differences. Respect for each other and where we are coming from is a two way streets, a give and take. Some of them do have a point when they argue that the Reich Wing Christo-Fascists do not distinguish between us. Neither do the cops and way too often neither do the courts.
And I know I’ve disappointed those who expect me to be a lot more anti-transgender that I am. Once the anger wore off and the thinking began I softened. It is sort of like the anger I felt right after 9/11 that made me real right wing for a year or two. Anger clouds the mind and prevents clear thinking.