I’m not into automatic butch worship.
I don’t think butch women who act all masculine and dress in masculine clothing are necessarily any smarter or more competent at doing things than more feminine women are.
I think that treating butches like some sort of feminist icons is sort of misogynistic because it devalues feminine women and abilities.
It sort of seems like the sissy punching that treats feminine boys and girls as sub-human.
Isn’t the butch worship sort of a variation on the boys good/girls bad dialectic.
On page 5 of her book Full Frontal Feminism Jessica Valenti asks the question, “What is the worst thing you can call a girl/woman.” She also asks what the worst thing you can call a boy/man. In both cases the answer is “girl”.
T to F kids are abused for acting like girls. Girls and women are treated as inferior because we have socially constructed girls as being inferior to boys/men.
Mind you I’m not talking about the hyper pink stereotypes being pushed. More like the admiring of the butch woman who rides a Harley and works as a mechanic and casually dissing the hippie woman with long hair who drives a Prius and runs an organic food store.
I get really tired of hearing TS/TG women tell me how they aren’t feminine.
I mean WTF?
Like I’m supposed to be impressed by your dissing femme TS/TG women.
I mean you have already blown off any male creds, no matter how sketchy those creds might have been by living as women and getting sex reassignment surgery or at least changing your secondary sex characteristics.
It doesn’t matter to the transphobes and homophobes whether you wear a skirt or jeans, they are going to consider you queer.
Doesn’t matter that you’ve never had sex with men. You are still considered queer.
So you can give up the sissy punching, the bashing of femmes.
I always found it really gross and sexist when butches talked shit about femmes. Especially when their femme was supporting them because they couldn’t find jobs.
They diss the brothers too and over the years I’ve found some T to Male people to be less misogynistic than most men.
Indeed I tend to think TS/TG folks in general often have a greater awareness of sexism than the non-trans population.
Except among ourselves where we often seemed compelled to put down feminine sisters. Which is a little weird considering how many sisters have FFS.
I suspect there is more of this among people who come out older and still haven replaced that inner censor with something I call my guardian fairy, Tinkerbell. Tink is the one that says, Hey it’s okay for you to like that because you think its pretty, you’re a girl. What the worst they can call you? A girl, well you already crossed that Rubicon.
Imagine a world where everyone acted surprised if the masculine person was capable of say building a computer from components. Or capable of thinking logically.
Now I know that corporate media has created these huge stereotypes of what is masculine and what is feminine and sometimes it seems that to be feminine requires huge expenditures on basically worthless junk but that is al advertising.
Much of being feminine is about being nurturing and not spending most of your time trying to impress others with how tough you are.
I think a lot of TS/TG women have a hard time giving themselves permission to let go of the masculine.
I also don’t see feminism as being about emulating a caricature of masculinity.