Disclaimer: I have gotten seriously pissed off with some of the BS about gender and the insistence upon the erasure of transsexuals by the smothering inclusive “Transgender Umbrella”.
But until the last half dozen or so years I’ve counted transgender individuals among my circle of friends. Unfortunately I’ve outlived those whom I knew in 3D and now most of my Transgender friends are people I have met on-line. Mainly on mailing lists and places like Facebook.
While I’ve argued with people, I actually like and respect some of those folks I have argued with.
I recognize the validity of economic arguments. Hell I was lucky to get SRS when I did. I caught the tail end of the 1960s prosperity coupled with cheap rent, and access to a loan that I might not have been able to get except for having someone willing to co-sign.
When I first came on-line some 15 years ago Alta Vista was the hot search engine and the alt. lists on Usenet were the place to be.
I encountered some really strange folks there and got in some very heated arguments.
It was there that I first encountered someone who considers herself to be “True/Classic Transsexual” and can always be depended upon to trash TG folks,. Only in those days she wasn’t so certain about herself. Indeed. Her self description was, “More than a transvestite and less than a transsexual.”
Guess what, I’m perfectly fine with that and I’m equally fine with her coming to a greater understanding of self and going on to get SRS. There are as many ways to be trans as there are people who have to deal with conditions that have trans as a prefix.
I left the Usenet about a year or so after having first found my way there. When I left people were engaging in a level of violence that was crossing over from the virtual world into 3D.
I was on a mailing list called “Trans-theory” ostensibly run by the rarely present Stephan Whittle. This list was subjected to a prolonged attack by a cabal that was using various tactic to defame and degrade women of a transsexual history by dividing us into androphiles and autogynephiles. A pair of rather meaningless pathologies that degraded both those who were defined as AP or AGP.
About this time I met Stephan Whittle at a conference in Burbank and had several extended conversations with him. While he was more supportive of the Transgender Umbrella paradigm than I was he came off as sincere and sane. Someone I could disagree with and not have it turn into a major war filled with personal slander. The cabal went after him with serious allegations and in a manner of ad hominem attacks that resulted in his abandoning the mailing list.
Members of this same cabal launched numerous attacks directed toward emotionally injuring me including personal threats.
As a result Tina and I founded the Women Born Transsexual Mailing list.
At its onset it seemed to attract people who would later leave to form the HBS/Classic Transsexual faction.
Over the course of some 8 years the list also attracted people who would go to great lengths not only to join the list as an individual but created sock puppets for the purpose of disrupting the list.
Not that the list needed much disruption as every post-SRS sister has her own firm opinions of what constitutes a “proper transsexual”. Some of the issues that tore the list apart included those who thought lesbian sisters should support heterosexual sisters marriage rights and not fight for same sex marriage.
We were visited by Charlotte Goiar, who insisted we start using “Benjamin Syndrome” instead of transsexual. I was skeptical and pointed out that while Transsexual was commonly abbreviated as TS, Benjamin Syndrome would be abbreviated as BS which in American slang stood for Bull Shit.
When I started this blog a couple of years ago all the usual trolls showed up.
Fortunately Andrea James who was kind enough to give my blog an initial push which really helped me get rolling had a bunch of information on a couple of the trolls as well as several people people notably Kiira Tirea who were part of the original cabal.
I wasn’t about to let my new blog become hostage to these people so I immediately slapped them on moderation.
As a result I have several people who devote an inordinate amount of time to trashing me for not wanting to be part of their “Classic Transsexual/HBS” club.
You see I’ve pretty well come to the conclusion that the vast majority of people do not get SRS on a lark or as part of some sort of thrill. I also believe many who recant have fallen under the spell of some religious cult.
Others should have been excluded from SRS based on mental illness.
But most of us got SRS for the simple reason of having been born Transsexual.
We coped with having been born with transsexualism in a number of different ways. Some of us were obvious as kids, others were not. Some of us had sex with men, some with women before SRS. Some of us had marriages in our assigned at birth sex and others had relationships that might have been heterogendered while being technically homosexual.
Some may have been asexual before and asexual after. Some are more taken with adhering to a rigidly defined gender role than others.
Some people have way too much time on their hands and use it to trash others.
I’m giving a shout out to Elizabeth of the Blog, Notes from the T side Like me, she has been around for many years. We were even in Los Angeles at the same time in the 1970s although I don’t think our paths crossed. We were also both patients of Dr. Benjamin. From what I have read of her blog she seems like good people. Coincidentally she is being attacked by some of the same people who came here and messed with my blog when I first started it.
Pay her a visit. I’m going to give her a link on my Blog Roll.